Why can't I get over her or him?

It's because you are stuck with her/him in your head. If you change your thoughts, you can start with aiming on other things. Also what helps is too hang out with friends.

Relationships are tough and the heart loves to love who it wants, even if your mind knows it's best to be apart.

I can't get over him because I invested all my emotional energy into my relationship with him and left none for myself. Now I must begin rebuilding my emotional energy and invest it into myself. By putting my energy into positive things like college and family I will get through this and move on.

Some people gravitate towards what's familiar to them. Over time we build up memories with a significant other, so when things get bad that's all we'll remember. Fantasizing about what use to happen. Our emotion and need to be cared for clouds our judgement towards people who don't care for us at all.

In my experience, it is extremely difficult to get over someone who has become such a huge part of your life and routine. In some ways it feels like you are starting a whole new path which can be both scary and exciting.

In my experience with break ups I have found that I can't get over someone because I feel like I used to rely on that person and that they were my greatest support system. What really helped me was realizing that I can be my own support system and that I will make it through and get stronger through everything. I hope I have helped you in your time of need.

Because we accept the love we think we deserve. You can surely be with someone who is just like them or even better than them. But your brain is trying to trick you into thinking that "they were the one."

Often when you are trying to get over someone, only the good things come to mind. You remember all of the good times you had together, all the nice things the other person said to you. It is important to remember the things you didn't like, or reasons why it didn't work out. It's a hard thing to do, but harder on yourself when you only spend time missing all of the great things about the relationship.

Often it feels like you are caught in a squirrel cage going round and round. It's helpful sometimes to just step back and notice, "I'm stuck in that old squirrel cage again, dammit!"

Getting over someone you cared about is difficult and takes time. The change can take you through all sorts of feelings, and memories, throwing the best of people off course. You might not even be able to see how your life can be without them. But you were you before them, and you will be you after them. It's hard to remember in the moments when you're really low, finding someone to talk to can really help. Take small steps, do something for yourself and begin to remember the value of you. You can be a little kinder to yourself.