Why can't I be myself around other people?

In my case, i cant be myself around other people, because i forgot who am i. We are always thinking about what others may think of us, and that leads you to the point that you even dont know who you are. So i stop thinking that i dont know how to be myself around other people, i try to relax, and i remain in silence if i dont know what to say. At first it is strange, but then you start to make some confident moves. Little by little you return to yourself.

I don't know what people mean by "not being yourself" around others - who am I being if not me? If you mean being around others is tiring, boring, gut-wrenching, nerve-wracking, panic-inducing, and your instinct is to get out as quickly as possible, then I know what you mean. Why, and what to do about it, I haven't a damn clue.

I don't like small chat and would rather talk serious life things. Also if I sat and just watched all the time I'd never make friends

Sometimes we are afraid to be ourselves in front of others because we are afraid they would judge. Its always good to know that the best people to be around are the ones that excepts you just the way you are regardless. And the best way to know who are those people is to be yourself around them.

Often, we find ourselves overthinking what other people might be thinking of us, of the way we interact, of the way we are in general. And that can set off an anxious reaction that will make it impossible for us to be ourselves, as we are not thinking straight. What I did, was I stopped at some point, and asked myself: Why am I worrying about other's opinions of me so much? They don't know me, and whatever they think is just an impression they've built up, not based on who I really am, so why bother? as for those who are close to me, they had the chance to know the real me, and they are sticking around. We all have our flaws, it doesn't mean our value as human beings should be any less because of them :)

The most common reason for this is lack of self-confidence. It's important to improve self-confidence for more courage around other people. Trust yourself, improve yourself, and be yourself.

Because Society makes you think that you are worthless. Society does not want us to be individual but Fitting into Society

According to my views, our behaviour depends on the way we respond to people's actions, words and thoughts. Our behaviour is strongly affected by how people make us feel about ourselves. While one may think, that this kind of behaviour may be sounding like *not oneself*; I think that we are simply adjusting to the respective surrounding and atmosphere at that time. Imagine a chameleon :) It's got different colours he can take, but it's still itself right ?

I can be myself, to an extent, but for example, I have worked through my issues for the most part and am comfortable with who I am. There are times when I am triggered, but it is rare, and I would like to think I handle it ok. But I still cannot interface with my father on the issues we had. He came from a physically abusive childhood and still, to this day, figures if he didn't knock our teeth out or beat us daily that naturally he didn't abuse us. Thing is, he was an abuser. I stood up to him respectfully yet sternly when I was in my early 20's and spent the next years reminding him that I will not be around him if he is going to disrespect me. Now I am 46 and the idea of him dominating me in any way is a long past issue. Nevertheless, I still don't see anything constructive in bringing up the fact that I was abused as a child and how it has had an dramatic impact on my life. So in that way, to this day, I still can't be 100% myself around him. But I have his respect, even though it is forced, and still have a relationship with him. So you know, I let sleeping dogs lie when he is around.