Why am I so shy around big crowds, but when I'm with one friend than I'm fine?

For most people, not necessarily everyone, they feel small when they are surrounded by many more people and have less confidence, or feel exposed in some way. When you are with a friend, you feel more comfortable and confident and, most likely, feel a sense of protection.

that just may be what you think, if you are an adult you are not the only one who is shy around crowds, crowds make people feel lost like they will lose something or lose the people who are around you. a lot can go wrong in big crowds, theft, harrassment, you may hear things in a crowd that you think someone is trying to send your way. i am a bit afraid of big crowds i know this because i havn;t been using public transpertation that often. i always think the worst. a big crowd of friends at a cottage having fun is no problem, because i feel comfortable around my friends but when people i don;t know come around i get anxious. one on one with a friend is not as exciting as a big crowd, make it an adventure.

Because you want someone to be there for you to back you up in case something goes wrong, they are like your support and foundation to help you be more confident.

The reason is because you're more familiar with your friends. You've been around them for quite some time and they know things about you just like you know things about them. The information learned can go in a number of ways from being personal to deep and dark and so on and so forth. As our relationship grew in this friendship so has your trust. That is why you are able to let your guard down around your friends and be yourself. In big crowds this is different because these are people you do not know and you do not trust so you can't be yourself because they are strangers. In some instances you feel like they may judge you or some other it kind of reflects on how you may feel about yourself, your self identity.

I think this is a very normal feeling that a lot of people have. It's easy to feel overwhelmed when you are surrounded by a lot of people, most of whom you might not know, and the perceived 'threat' of being judged increases. Your friend is your friend for a reason; you might have a lot of things in common with them, you will likely feel comfortable around them and you will hopefully not feel judged by them. All of this can make it feel easier to have a conversation one on one with a friend as opposed to a large group of people.

I think that many people are like that. Talking to friend makes you feel safe, while many unknown people can seem threatening. Also, if you are an introvert, crowds can overwhelm you because your mind tries to focus on many things at once. When you're focusing on one person only, you calm your mind. I also find that when I am in a big crowd, I feel better when I'm listening to music. When you have to speak to a big crowd of people, try to focus on one or two people who you know or seems nice. If you are unsure if you are an introvert or have social anxiety (the two are not the same!!), there are reliable tests online too.

Perhaps you feel safer in the company of one trusted friend, and large numbers of people, make you feel more anxious, and that can cause you to withdraw. One friend gives you time for equal communication, that is time to talk, and time to listen, and helps you form a better bond. Whereas in crowds, there can be lots of competition to make yourself heard and accepted, very daunting! Even if you know most of them, if some appear to gel together more than you are able, you may feel left out and alone, that can be a very uncomfortable feeling. If you are able to socialise with one friend at a time, and comfortable with that, I would think about sticking to that for social interaction.

Have you ever heard of introversion? What you describe fits exactly to the problem of introverted people. The opposite of introversion is extroversion. When you get more energy in a big crowd of people you are extroverted, when you get more energy when you are alone or with only one humen you are normally introverted. You can search on You Tube for videos of introversion, there are very much. Also there is a # on this website. I have the link for you. Here it is: https://www.7cups.com/~introvert I hope I could help you. I wish you best luck. Hope to see you again.

You may feel shy around big crowds because there are so many people present compared to that one friend you feel comfortable with. When we are in crowds or a group of people, there could be more eyes on us at once where we can't keep track we feel like our every move is calculated, and everything we say matters because we have to worry about more than one opinion. In that case, subconsciously it can be "scary" or maybe stressful, maybe we feel anxious, overwhelmed, embarrassed more easily if we make a joke and not everyone laughs or no one does. It can add more pressure to us, but just about everybody else can feel the same thing. Some people are more immuned to bigger crowds or speaking up and not being shy, it can be genetics or because they are so sued to being talkative, we all have our individual personalities. We have to find the good qualities in them. Being shy or quiet isn't necessarily a bad thing at all. Like for me, for ex., I am afraid I could mess up my words, slur, choke-up, and I think about it so much it does mess me up sometimes. But, what helps me is not to put that thought in my head when speaking, and take a pause when I don't know what the next word will be, or think of what I will say before saying it if it doesn't already come naturally. All in all, we all have mixed feeling when talking in crowds or expressing ourselves freely especially if there are strangers there or people we could compare ourselves too, or we want to make a good impression. It is completely normal, but just like us observing, we are interested in what the next person is going to say as we like to connect as humans and communicate, and have a good time. Being shy is very common, and it can be looked at as cute as well! This is my input on that.

There could be many different reasons why you’re shy around big crowds. When you’re with one person it can be a little bit more intimate and you can feel more safe. When you’re talking to one person you feel heard and you’re able to speak back and have a cup proper conversation. In big crowds it can become overwhelming with noises people hustling and bustling And overhearing peoples conversation can be overwhelming that you might feel that you can’t participate. If you took a step back and looked and saw that a big crowd is just many people also feeling this way usually. It may help you through your shyness.