Why am I so shy around big crowds, but when I'm with one friend than I'm fine?

Crowds, especially of strangers, make many people uncomfortable. Taking deep breaths and focusing on the people you know is helpful in crowds.

Personally, I am like that too! It is natural for me to be funny and outspoken when I am with a friend, but when it comes to being in a crowd, I tend to clam up and not voice my thoughts as much. This could just be the way you are - sometimes, introverted people feel much calmer and safer when they have space to breathe and when they can feel like they are more of an individual. It is certainly hard to feel like you're being seen when you're a part of a large group of people, but if that's within your nature, it's certainly not something you could or try to change! Feel comfortable being yourself and when you can, occasionally let go of how scary it is to not know if people can see you or not and understand that people definitely can.

Usually being with one friends gives you a feeling of familiarity. Being in a crowd with a bunch of strangers can feel overwhelming and and unfamiliar. You're surrounded by people who don't know you and don't understand your boundaries. Having at least one friend with you gets rid of that feeling. Most likely this person has known you for a while. This usually means that they understand your boundaries and understand what makes you uncomfortable, unlike everyone else surrounding you. It also gives the feeling of comfort, because if something were to happen to you while in this crowd, you'd know your friend would be there to help you with it. Meanwhile it's very unlikely that a random stranger in the crowd would. All around, being with a friend helps with almost any social situation!

When you are around big crowds people usually feel shy because they’re alone and in need of Simone’s company. When I’m all alone I feel like everyone is starting at me and talking about me but when I’m with a buddy I feel confident and always good about myself. When I’m accompanied by someone I feel like I can act myself and do and say anything. I think to get over the shy part something I do is I use dark sunglasses and I feel much more powerful and as if nobody is even looking my way, I hope this helps

Being around a large group of people can cause fear and shyness. Most likely it is caused by the fear of rejection by a large group of people as you see yourself to be outnumbered. While talking to a friend, someone you trust, you feel protected because you have a familiar bond with that individual. By being with them you feel safe from the large group of people. Being with someone you trust allows us to go outside of our comfort zones because we know that if we get into trouble we can always go back and be in that safe space with our friend.

I think that this happens a lot because you feel protected by your friends. Imagine there are two groups of deer. One of the groups has a solitary animal, maybe two. The other is a herd full of life with many members. Which is a wolf more likely to leave alone? Many times, a crowd of unknown people can be nervewracking. When around friends or a group of those you know, though, you feel distracted from the crowd and/or protected by them. Don't feel like your fear is invalid just because it isn't felt al the time. That is totally normal.

This of course is only my answer and it is not in any case the only right one(if I may be so bold) I would say you are an entertainer at heart, you like chilling with your friends and probably enjoy making them happy, you may be someone who makes friends easely and so the thought of having to entertain such a crowd puts pressure on you, so what you may call being shy may be beeing frightful that you are not going to be good enough for everyone, wich you shouldn't have to try to be,and tho we don't know each other I aplaude you for wanting to (if this applies)

I can really relate to this kind of shyness; I used to feel it often. Whenever I was in a large group of people, I would feel pressure to act in ways that would please as many people as possible (or, at least, not displease them). Learning to become more aware of that need and practicing easing up on it gradually helped me feel more relaxed and comfortable in large groups. Although I still feel some shyness in that particular situation, I find that just giving myself permission to be aware of it--and not fight it--helps me start to relax and feel more comfortable, more like the way I feel with one person (like a friend). This technique feels a little awkward at first, and it takes some practice (and a bit of courage!), but it gets easier the more you do it. I hope that helps.

For me personally, being around one friend offers some familiarity. You know this one person better than you know a whole crowd and the emotional connection between the two of you may make you feel more seen or in a comfortable setting. For me, the prospect of going to a large event such as a party seems really fun, but when I'm there I find myself only wanting to interact with a friend. As I'm an introvert, fewer people around me let me have fun and express myself. Putting yourself out there may take work, but that is perfectly okay! We all pull our energy from different places and all have different needs.

It's probably because they give you a sense of comfort and security! There is a lot of anxiety being around big crowds, which is perfectly normal to an extent. Having someone with you that you've known and have a connection with will soothe some of that anxiety and shyness. If you are especially close to this person, like if you've known them for a while, or know them very well, or if you just feel very safe around them, it could surely contribute. It's a similar thing to having an item of comfort for young children, like a blanket or a stuffed animal.