Why am I so shy around big crowds, but when I'm with one friend than I'm fine?

This happens to me too! You are probably comfortable with that friend and have anxiety around people you don't know very well... very normal, but if it is affecting your everyday life, I would suggest seeing a therapist or doctor! There is nothing wrong with reaching out for help. Going to the doctor and seeing a therapist helped me so so much. My anxiety was so bad I would have breakdowns before entering a restaurant or going to church, partied, etc. If you are experiencing severe anxiety, get help! If it is just more about being uncomfortable, work on different mental exersises or hobbies. Some of this comes with age and expereince too. Sending light :)

It is hard to say. Let us break down it a bit. When we listen to someone one to one, we listen to the person, try to understand what that person meant, and if the need is we speak. On the contrary, when we are in front of a group or big crowd, we could be bombarded with words and ideas. We might not be able to respond to them well, or what if our argument sounds stupid? Or what if we are misunderstood? The fear of making a fool of ourselves makes us shy in front of big crowds. ideas to come out of it could be slowly increasing the number of people we converse with if one person tries talking in front of two and slowly in front of a group. Also, try to make peace with the fact that we will commit mistakes and we might be considered stupid but it will not be the end of the world, so the best it is to face our fears and walk forward.

One friend is sometimes all you need to feel safe and comfortable. Being with a true friend feels like home. When you're around a bunch of strangers, it can make you feel small and unsure, but with a friend, you will feel confident and secure. When I was in my freshman year of college, I felt isolated and didn't want to leave my dorm room. My social anxiety was something that held me back from enjoying my college experience; however, when I met my best friend, I hung out with her almost every day! We have been friends forever!

Feeling like you fit in and are accepted by one person is one thing. since it is just one personality that you need to be compatible with versus an entire crowd of different personalities you may feel a greater expectation of being relatable to everyone versus just that one friend. Introverts are that way too, some people just flourish better in a smaller crowd, its a little more intimate and personal when there isnt a ton of people around allowing you to be yourself rather than spend your time conforming to what you think an entire group may expect of you.

It sounds like you could be experiencing some social anxiety. It tends to make you feel anxious and shy around crowds if people, especially busy places. Especially if you find your fine with one friend, you tend to feel a lot comfortable with a single friend than a crowd of people. Personally myself I suffer from social anxiety too, for me it means that I start to get anxious and have panic attacks if I’m in really crowded places especially if there’s lots of people there. Just take every day as it comes and take it slowly going out in crowds until you start gathering enough confidence to do large groups/crowds.

Hello. I want you to know that a lot of people also feel this way. You feel like that because you trust your friend, and so you can relax and be yourself when with him. Try to forget the big crowds, everybody is going through something, so when you accept that, maybe you can relax and let yourself go. When you realize that everyone have their own battle to fight, it gets easier to deal with larger crowds without feeling shy. Start by trying to deal with smaller crowds, and when making progress, you can pass on to bigger ones. Im sure it will make it easier to deal with!

I guess, in my experience, I have felt much better with a friend around in big crowds because I feel like I looked less alone and would always have someone to talk to and thus look and feel less awkward. Also, with a friend around to talk to, I have felt less focused on other people, what they're doing, how they're coming across, how I'm coming across in comparison to them, and how I must be being viewed by them. Also, it's just nice to feel less alone, like you have someone by your side whether it's fun or not.

Anxiety could be a likely cause. It can make you hate being in big crowds although you feel okay around a friend. Usually being around someone you trust and feel comfortable with will keep your anxiety from coming up as bad. Large crowd, especially if you don’t know the people in it, can drive someone‘s anxieties you the wall because they’re surrounded by people they don’t know and can’t as well control what will happen. It’s common for people to get shy or nervous in big crowds like this.

I understand your situation, and I believe it’s completely normal. In my personal experience, I am also a shy person around big crowds and sometimes I may even want to be alone instead, while I’m loud and much confident with my friends. Remember that this definitely not a problem, Just remember to be confident in yourself in front of anyone and do not let anyone judge you or let you down! If you are down, remember to take the courage to reach out for support! Our listeners are always here to help you. Thanks for reading have a nice day.

It's very common to be uncomfortable around big crowds! Personally, I find with one person, you can be heard and you are comfortable with that one person. Around large crowds, it's harder to determine what the outcome of a conversation or a situation will be. It's common to be afraid of being laughed at or judged for things. But honestly, it never happens! Just go out there, have fun, be yourself :)