Why am I so nervous around my girlfriend?
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Moderated by Danielle Johnson, MSED, Community mental Health Counseling, LMHC
Updated: Jun 5, 2022
Anonymous
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Aug 4, 2021
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There are many reasons a person might feel nervous around their partner. Perhaps the relationship is fairly new, and you're not sure how they'll react to you or how they feel about certain things. Maybe you are new to relationships or new to this kind of relationship, and feel less than fully prepared for the adventures this relationship may bring. Or, maybe there is a bit of social anxiety at play that is intensified in this relationship because of the intimacy or the one-on-one nature of the interactions. To find out more about what makes you feel this way, you might want to consider keeping a journal, or doing some quiet reflection on what the root of that feelings is.
Anonymous
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Aug 29, 2021
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When you’re dating someone new, it’s normal to feel nervous before seeing them.
And when you really like them, nervous excitement is to be expected. It's normal to get nervous at first when ever you are with them or when you talk to them. But the more you spend time with them the less nervous you should be when you meet or talk to them.
It could also be that you are nervous about pushing her away, those moments of insecurity can make you question your relationship and how your girl friend feels about you. You feel like your imperfections will scare your partner away.
ourjourney21
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Nov 28, 2021
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It is common to be nervous around the people we care about because we don't want to do something stupid to hurt them, and we don't want them to see how imperfect we can be. It's the vulnerability of loving and the fear of not being loved back equally. Nervousness can also be due to insecurities and not being able to portray them. Showing your vulnerabilities and being able to see that your partner can reciprocate and be equally expressive can stem down some of your nervousness.
I think it also depends on if you're trying to hide something from your partner and are scared that it would come out. Honesty and authenticity is the key to starting a relationship. I wish you all the luck and hope you find what you're looking for.
floweryfairy222
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Dec 9, 2021
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It may be beacause you think of her highly and you don't want to disappoint her in any way. In this case, I suggest you let things loose and let her love you just the way you are, since I am sure that she chose you for all the good reasons. Constantly stressing about her presence, about being good enough is unhealthy for the realtionship, but also for you. This nervousness can as well come from the fact that you are infatuated with her and may have those so called butterflies in your stomach, in which case I really think you should be enjoying this feeling for as much as it lasts.
RainbowUnicorn1266
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Dec 19, 2021
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How long have you been together? There can be many contributing factors to why you would be feeling a lack of self esteem, confidence in this relationship. Maybe people from your past have ruined your trust and therefore you struggle to trust others, whether they love you and can be truthful. It is common to feel the need to impress your other half, but it is okay to open up and express yourself to them to understand what might have caused this. Most likely they will understand and listen to you. You don't know these answers until you ask and work on from there.
naturalhelper6843
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Jan 6, 2022
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A possible reason for being nervous around your girlfriend is perhaps you are not being 100% your true self. When in relationships, sometimes people tend to put their best version of themselves forward. They can try to make it seem as if they do not have flaws. This can make you nervous because it is like you are hiding a part of yourself and you are afraid what their reaction will be when they discover it. Try to be your true self- flaws and all. Remember they are a flawed human too. We all are. So it doesn't matter how much you think you are nervous just remember that she is nervous too.
Anonymous
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Jan 7, 2022
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Being nervous around your s/o is completely okay and valid. There are many reasons one would be nervous around their significant other, it could be that you have something to tell them, it could be that you feel uncomfortable around them, it could be that you feel they're cheating on you, maybe you are new to this so you feel a little anxious, you don't know what to do, what to say. Take your time to figure out what it is you feel, think about your emotions, draw them, write them down, whatever suits you. After you figured out what makes you feel this way, be sure to let your significant other know, because communication is key in all relationships. Goodluck with your relationship
Janelistens
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Mar 17, 2022
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You may be nervous around your girlfriend because of fear of being judged. However, to be judged, you have to actually do something first. It is okay to feel uncomfortable around your girlfriend, but it is very important to make sure that you step out of your comfort zone. In order for the two of you to accept each other and defeat any nerves, you have to really see each other fully. Getting to the truth of who each other is takes time and a lot of uncomfortable situations. So don't be afraid to open up, because it will only build up the relationship
Train1
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Mar 30, 2022
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There is no easy answer to this. It will vary from person to person. If you are in a new relationship and you really have strong feelings for this girl, you may worry that you may say or do something that she doesn't approve of. You could also of had some kind of a setback in your relationship and you are getting back together and for the same reason are anxious that you don't trigger the same thoughts that led to the setback in the first place. You need to find some way to break the ice. Do something that you both enjoy and that takes the pressure out of the situation. Go and see a movie or visit the local park. Go somewhere where you don't have to just make small talk, but you can chat about what is happening around you.
Anonymous
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Apr 7, 2022
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Being nervous around your girlfriend is natural. It’s all about love. That’s what you’re experiencing when you’re around your girlfriend. Love. Relationships are so delicate and important. You want to do everything right by her. This is normal when you’re in love. The more dates you go on. The more you’ll start getting more comfortable around your girlfriend. Look at how often, you’re going on dates. The more you go out with her, the less nervous you’ll be. It’s easy to say relax. However, enjoy every moment of experiencing love. You’re in love with her. That’s why you’re feeling nervous!
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