Why am I so nervous around my girlfriend?

“Anxiety is love’s greatest killer. It makes others feel as you might when a drowning man holds on to you. You want to save him, but you know he will strangle you with his panic.” ~Anais Nin When a relationship causes anxiety, we are groomed to believe our relationship anxiety is the problem. After all, anxiety can strangle love, suffocate it, tear it apart, leaving most of us to believe that relationships and anxiety simply don’t mix. If we feel anxious, most of us believe we need to get ourselves under control lest we ruin our relationship. We don’t see anxiety as useful, we see it as a problem which adds pressure to the anxiety we are already feeling, and ultimately escalates it.

This is pretty normal, especially if you’re in a new relationship or if you are young and haven’t had many other relationships in the past. It’s very common to feel nervous around people who we are interested in. Lots of relationships do go through a stage like this full of infatuation, called the honeymoon stage, where the relationship is new, fresh, alluring, and exciting. When you are infatuated, you may find yourself on edge when talking to the person who you are dating or who you are interested in. Remember that this nervousness won’t go on forever and try to get to know each other

Sometimes when we admire or love people more than usual, we tend to be very nervous. We also think of how they will react to each of our behaviors, how we can impress them with our personality etc. Sometimes it also happens that we are at a loss of words in front of our favorite people. It's all because we care about their feelings and impressions towards us. It is undeniable that everyone wants to make the first impression remarkable and sweet. So, it's not a bad sign that we get nervous around our favorite people, we are just a bit too much concerned about their thoughts. :D

When you have feelings for someone, it can make you feel all jittery and fluttery inside. This could be because being around this person just makes you feel so happy and loved. It can also be because you don't want to accidentally embarrass yourself in front of them. Since they're your girlfriend, you want to make the best impressions all the time. Being nervous around your girlfriend isn't a bad thing either. Many new relationships feel this way at the beginning. Many like to call it the "puppy love stage". It just means you guys are still getting used to each other!

You probably want to impress her and are scared that you will do something to ruin your relationship or her feelings towards you, so you feel nervous around her. Maybe it is your first time having a girlfriend or having one you really like. And you cope with that constant worry by holding yourself back and hiding your true self because you are so nervous to mess it up. Apart of it could be that you feel intimidated or feel like she is better then you. My advice would be to work on your confidence and maybe have a conversation with her about it.

If you are in a new relationship with your girlfriend, then it is normal to feel nervous. This may be due to the fact that you do not know her very well yet or maybe because you just need time to grow comfortable around each other. In the majority, this feeling comes from the fear of maybe if they'll say something that'll ruin the whole situation. They may kinda get the feeling of being giddy(sometimes it really happens. I didn't believe this until I saw it myself). Sometimes it may happen because of insecurities they might have. The moment you realize how nervous that person makes you feel. Nervousness is the way our minds tell us someone means a lot to us. ... It's when we feel a need to protect and hold on to another that we have found someone worth keeping around -- someone we care about as much as we care about ourselves

You can nervous for a ton of reasons, good or bad! You might be nervous because of the relationship is new and fresh. It's really nerve wrecking to be able to be with the one person that you truly enjoy being around. Once when you spend more time with her the more your nerves will calm down. Honestly being nervous for some times are just apart of the experience and after the fact when you are able to calm your nerves you will be able to look back on your experiences and truly be able to cherish and to understand them

Especially if the relationship is fairly new, a feeling of need to paint, or uphold a presentable picture of yourself to them is often what drives this feeling of nervousness! The adrenaline or rush of a significant other pushes us to want to be a better version of ourselves, and this can also cause anxiety! Often times, their presence is simply enough to push this feeling, but other times, big first steps, like a first kiss or even a first date can cause this as well. Nervousness will pass, and instead be replaced by a good sort of anxiety. Like butterflies or the rush of being around someone you love.

There's no way to know for sure in such a general way, but it's good to think about it. There's lots of kinds of nervousness. Is it a good kind of nervousness, because you're excited to be around her — like butterflies in your stomach? If that's the case, it can be worth it to tell her that you like her a lot and it makes you nervous. Is it a bad kind of nervousness? Do you fear she might treat you poorly, and if so, has it happened before? If it hasn't and you are treated well by her, it could be an anxious fear, which is not fun but also not the end of the world. You can try and make yourself less nervous by remembering good moments with her and how she hasn't ever treated you poorly. If she has treated you poorly and it makes you nervous that she might again, that's not a very healthy relationship, and you might want to reconsider it. It's never worth it to be with someone who treats you badly.

Could it be from past experiences? Maybe even a first time experience? Are you afraid you'll do the wrong thing? There could be something you're nervous about that you haven't thought about in depth that much, and in the end it could even end up being something simple. I don't think you want to just go up to your girlfriend and say "I'm nervous around you". I think it's something you need to think about on your own, ask yourself questions. It could be many things, you know your relationship experience(s) better than anyone. Just know at the end of the day that you should feel comfortable around your significant other, and that obstacles are always going to be a part of a relationship.