Why am I so nervous around my girlfriend?
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Moderated by Danielle Johnson, MSED, Community mental Health Counseling, LMHC
Updated: Jun 5, 2022
Vronica23
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Aug 13, 2017
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I think most people can relate to feeling that way around someone we care for, especially when the relationship is new. This is someone we want to impress and make happy, so I think it's natural to have some feelings of nervousness around them sometimes. Give it time, and you will see yourself relax around them, and things will feel natural. If this is not a new relationship, but the feelings of nervousness are new, maybe there's something on your mind that you need to get out. Sit down, and try to have an open conversation with them. Let them know how you're feeling, even if it's a little difficult to get out. Let them know that they can also trust you, and tell you what's going on in their mind too. Communication is so important, and if they care about you, they'll also care about what you have to say.
Anonymous
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Sep 14, 2017
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Sometimes it normal for someone to get nervous around their partner sometimes or if they've been together briefly, or they could just be shy. If something doesn't seem right, I suggest talking to someone and perhaps seeking for help if necessary.
TogetherForeverAlways
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Nov 19, 2017
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Maybe you feel like you really want to impress her or "be better than usual", and that makes you feel nervous, which is normal. Or you're insecure and that leaves you unconfortable and not knowing how to behave in a normal way.
GentleBlizzard
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Nov 23, 2017
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Reflection is great for stuff like this. Maybe the cause is within yourself, or maybe it isn't. Best thing would be to take an external view on it and attempt to figure it out, every situation is personal.
Anonymous
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Dec 1, 2017
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Maybe it's because you care so much about what she thinks about you, but it will be better if you could calm yourself and just be you. She will love you for who you are.
Anonymous
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Dec 7, 2017
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You could be nervous around her because you want her to view you in a positive light and therefore, you are nervous to do something she might find silly or something that in your mind, could lower her view of you.
Anonymous
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Dec 9, 2017
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Is she a friend who shares and cares about my bad sad, days as my happy full of joy days? If I'm honest will she still be a friend?
Anonymous
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Dec 29, 2017
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When you feel nervous around a partner, you may be initially getting to know them or feel fear about opening up.
endearingLion70
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Dec 30, 2017
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Maybe you are not sure how she feels about you and the relationship in general. Or maybe the relationship is still young and you need more time
Anonymous
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Jan 3, 2018
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When you get around people you feel attracted to, sometimes you pressure yourself into being a certain way or active a certain way, your body gets flustered and hot and you get nervous because you don’t want to mess things up.
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