Why am I so nervous around my boyfriend?
SimplySerenity23
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Jan 8, 2021
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Well, that depends what the nervousness is based on. Is it the butterflies of being in a relationship or the anxiety of being with someone you like? Or is it fear? The nervousness of doing something wrong and upsetting him in a way that he could snap or hurt you? Or maybe you're being a little hard on yourself, worried you could mess up a relationship. I will say the butterflies you feel in a relationship are normal when you start and if the relationship is based on love and trust, it'll just take some time for you to get to know you partner. However, when your relationship is based of fear or severe anxiety, that's an unhealthy relationship. Being in a relationship where you fear your partner hurting you is toxic and potentially could be dangerous for you. A good relationship is all about security and safety and if you feel like you are scared of your partner, you should talk to a close or trusted companion about your situation and don't be afraid to ask for outside help if things start to really trouble you. As for your anxiety about the relationship, as long as your partner has made it clear to you that they are loving and want to provide you with security and warmth, try to trust your partner. They love you for a reason.
Fyn
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Feb 5, 2021
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When you are in a relationship with someone you in a way open up your most vulnerable parts to them, this can be why you might feel nervous around them. Learning to trust someone and feel safe with them takes practice and is something you will have to learn as at first it can feel scary to be so open and vulnerable to someone. Its always best to be open with your boyfriend about your problems as with all relationships the better the communication the stronger your bond will be. Remind yourself that this is just part of falling in love and if you work together everything will end up fine.
Anonymous
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Apr 1, 2021
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Sometimes nervousness can manifest in different ways. It can be excitement or genuine anxiety. Learning the difference between them is important. One way to approach yourself when trying to find the difference is recognizing if one feels fear or happiness. I’d there genuine terror when seeing your boyfriend? Or is it excitement that makes your stomach turn? Understanding the difference can help when trying to confront those emotions. Although, if you feel fearful of your boyfriend in any way because of his actions, please seek help from a professional. There are many hotlines that can help in those situations.
Anonymous
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Apr 11, 2021
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It is normal to feel nervous around your boyfriend you like. The best way to avoid this problem is to talk to him and let him know how you're feeling. Good communication skills with one another will make you guys create a better relationship. If you feel a good kind of anxious, than I would suggest just deep breathing and relaxing. If you feel a bad kind of nervous than that may be an issue. As long as you feel safe around him, and he makes you happy, you're good. Try to manage how nervous you get because it can unhealthy, but try your best to control your feelings.
absorbantlistener
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Apr 22, 2021
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May be you think you don't deserve him, or you think you might make a fool of yourself in front of him, or may be are still learning to risk showing your vulnerability around him, or may be you don't know how one stays in a relationship maintaining self cool. May be this, and may be that. There is no end to guessings.
But may be if you sit down voluntarily to objectively assess yourself, you might find the correct reason better than anybody. There is a certain discomfort and risk to doing this though. Best of luck.
CaringForest359
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May 19, 2021
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You must think highly of him and you are feeling a need to impress him. Perhaps the best way is to try spending more time with him open up to him so he isn't a stranger to you anymore.So that being said try relaxing when seeing him next time things will become more comfortable later on. And tell him what you feel as well and let him understand you so you don't run him off. Becasue he may get the impression that you don't like him anymore or that you are faking it because of him, and that would not be good for either of you.
QuirkyGirlSparks
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May 22, 2021
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It's easy to be self-concious of one's self. I hope you aren't nervous because your boyfriend puts you down or the relationship is unhealthy. I would suggest you talk to your boyfriend about these feelings. Maybe it would help you feel more and allow yourself to be you. I would also ask if this is a new relationship. I feel like everyone get s the jitters when first entering a relationship. I used to get nervous eating in front of my boyfriend. I had to work on getting past that because I was leaving dates hungry because I wouldn't eat. I hope this helped.
DrHaidarJ
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Jun 17, 2021
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It's a normal feeling, it means that your boyfriend is a very important person and you are feeling worried or nervous of losing him.
I wouldn’t say that nervousness is a good or a bad sign as it can be either way. But assuming there are no real red flags I would say this is normal anxiety. Especially when you haven’t had many relationships it is natural to be a little nervous that you might do something awkward.
What you can do about it is be relaxed and carefree about it. If he is your true boyfriend, then he should accept you no matter who you are.
Don't worry about it
Cheers!
Anonymous
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Jul 21, 2021
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If you have fear around your boyfriend that is a clear sign that you are probably in danger, but the question is why would you allow yourself to be in this situation. The strange thing about a situation like this is it's not so much about him than it is about yourself. Why would a person let themselves stay in a dangerous or uncomfortable situation. The most frequent answer is because I love him. Ask yourself is it him you love or the fact that you are in a relationship that you love, have you ever heard the expression Il love with the idea of being in love.ITs not all your fault because society, in general, have respected woman for their ability to maintain a relationship for ages and men have been admired since the caveman days for being able to provide. But in today's world, we are able to look at life from a different
perspective.
Aeowen
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Aug 14, 2021
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You could feel they have expectations of you that you are not meeting or there has been mental abuse in the past that you haven't dealt with.Its best to talk to your partner about these feelings and try to understand why you feel that way around them. Pay attention to what is going on around you when you start getting nervous to discover what is triggering you to feel this way. Are they being loud? Are they saying things that are making you uncomfortable? When you start to pay attention to these things, it will start to come to you concerning why you feel this way.
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