Whats the best way to get over that empty feeling after a commited relationship ends?
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Updated: Jan 6, 2015
JesseK1022
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Dec 7, 2014
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Oh no. I'm so sorry. I'm going through the same thing myself. That empty feeling doesn't go away quickly. If you are in a committed relationship and it ends and it wasn't our decision, chances are you have that sense of loss that manifests as an emptiness. You can't fill that even with another person or hobby. That's a part of your heart you gave to the person you were committed to and you know you can't take it back. You basically have to move on and recognize that that piece of your heart that you've lost will grow back over time. You can get your mind off that emptiness though. Know that it's not illegitimate to love someone new. They left you and no matter whose fault it was you have a lot of love to give to someone who deserves it. When you love others, the part of your heart you gave away will start to grow back. It won't feel so empty anymore. Just try to keep loving other people and that feeling will go away soon. Don't let that emptiness become a pit of despair. Don't dwell on it. Think about everyone who could benefit from the love you want to give.
oppa
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Dec 2, 2014
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Surrounding yourself with family and friends or take part in hobbies. Keep living your life, doing what you love to do.
calm
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Dec 2, 2014
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Based on my personal experience it would be great if someone diverts his mind towards the other deeds he loves so dearly. Like one can have passion for racing, painting, body building. It would be great if oneself concentrates on these after breakup. It will help in easy recovery and gives some clarity to us.
fixyou
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Dec 2, 2014
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The fact that this relationship has ended does mean that it wasnt meant to be. So you must learn from it and move on because life is long and now you know that you have taken another step closer to your soulmate
rayofhope11
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Dec 2, 2014
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In is important to go through it and not around it, deal with your emotions and list your strengths. Create a good and bad list do some crying and some laughing, and find some hope !
opheliaslost
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Dec 2, 2014
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Commit to yourself! It can be hard, at first, when a relationship ends to fill the time that you would've normally dedicated to that person to something else. But find something you enjoy doing, dedicate it to something you'd like to improve at, reconnect with friends and family. Find something that brings you happiness, and absorb yourself in it. You'll feel more fulfilled by something you do to take care of yourself (spend time with loved ones, work out, learn a new language, pass that exam) than someone else.
VanessaM
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Dec 3, 2014
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Going out with friends and doing things you enjoy to take your mind off things. You can also talk about it with your family for support
Anonymous
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Dec 18, 2014
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Work on yourself for a while. Work out more. Learn something new. Go on a trip. Use the empty time to make you a more interesting person
Anonymous
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Dec 22, 2014
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Do something challenging or do something that you never expect you will do and feel the freedom of your life
youremmajesty
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Jan 6, 2015
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Do things for yourself. Don't be afraid to treat yourself to a couple of days lying in bed with Netflix and Ben and Jerry's, but after that, it's time to get out and about. Go to social activities, if that's your cup of tea, or take up a new, relaxing hobby, like yoga. Just do things that make you feel happy in general, and soon enough, you'll realize that the gap you once felt is filled with all of your new, happy activities!
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