What should I do if people think I am lying?
Anonymous
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Dec 14, 2018
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Apologize immediately for the confusion. Take responsibility for your part in the conversation even though your intentions were never to be disingenuous. Make a commitment to the other person to speak more clearly the next time. Also be mindful if this type of confusion continues with the same person, over and over. Perhaps this ultimately is someone you may not want to spend time with. Sometimes it can be best to walk away from a relationship if the same type of problem happens over and over. You can't please all, people all of the time and unfortunately, in this world, sometimes a persons problem is that...they always feel the need to have a problem.
Gilbie8
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Feb 9, 2019
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You know your truth and they own their own perceptions of reality. The fact that others think you are lying does not change who you are. Ex: If I believe your eyes are blue won't in any way change the fact that they are brown. Right? You speak your own truth and maintain your point of view. Perhaps you can point out to the fact that it is possible that others have other versions of what is true to you. Perhaps you can also explore you own reaction when people think you are lying. How are you affected by their perception? How you would like to be able to react?
omorfokoritsi
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Feb 10, 2019
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You don't have to prove yourself at anyone, if you say the truth you don't have anything to hide also you don't need to justify yourself to others. You only have to try to justify yourself if you lied to them at the past so they have concerns on your credibility. In that case maybe an extra effort is required. If this is not the case and you always say the truth ask yourself why it is important to you what other people think and why they are not believing , what are their motives behind that action. Because they maybe have benefits in claiming they don't believe you. And question their motives to know with what kind of people you are dealing with and don't care about what they thinking in general.
ThymeTraveller
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Jun 6, 2019
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Nothing. It’s a lesson that took me a long time to learn, but in all honesty, you can’t control what people choose to assume and you don’t owe them proof with every word.
What you can do, if it worries you, is make sure that the things you do say—and especially promises you make—are indeed true. Those people who know you will pick up on that sooner or later.
If you’re close to these people, like family or friends, hopefully there’s also space for an open conversation. It’s not going to be easy, but it may help to sit down with them and explain that this bothers you, and hear their side of what makes them think that in the first place.
Anonymous
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Jun 14, 2019
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Hello! Dealing with others accusations is a huge struggle. If you're anything like me this event usually stirs up quite a bit of anxiety. It is hard to go in to social situations with confidence and the ability to be sure of ourselves. People accuse us of lying for many reasons. We as people are the only ones who know if we are lying or not. Despite what other people say sometimes taking pride in ourselves helps us deflect the assumption of others. For example I was accused of lying and the other kids at school wouldn't believe my words of me not lying. I know that I didn't lie, so why worry what the others think. I hope that helped! :)
BetterToday92
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Jun 27, 2019
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I would ask their reasons, and listen to their reasons. If the reasons sound fair, I would address them. If they do not sound fair, and you think the person is bullying you, I would contact a school authority (if you're at school), move away from them, or report them them to an authority in the community.
How to address fair concerns about lying: If a person has misunderstood you or was expecting more of the truth than you gave, they have fair reasons for thinking you were lying. If they did not understand your statement/behavior (e.g. they think you lied about being home at nine but you actually thought you had said ten), then establishing that there is a misunderstanding should solve the problem. If the person thinks you are lying because you only told part of the truth (e.g. you said you received a good report at work but only half of it was good), then you need to establish with the person what amount of truth they can give and what you are willing to give. Please note that, in general, people expect a summary of all parts of something but they don't expect all the details of all the parts.
Thanks for asking!
MissLisa
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Aug 22, 2019
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Ask yourself if it really matters what other peoples opinion is. Often we become so consumed about what other people think about us that we neglect ourselves. As long as you know the truth then no one else should matter. However if you are concerned you could always speak to that person and ask why they believe you are lying. You could also explain your side and ask what you could do to prove you are being honest. Be mindful that if in the past you have been dishonest, this could make people wary of trusting you to tell the truth in the future.
Anonymous
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Aug 30, 2019
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You should step back and really see who you are. You are the one person who really knows who you are, and that will never change. It doesn't matter what others think. You should be true to yourself, and no one else. If someone thinks your lying, it shouldn't matter. Because they don't matter. But you do, and you always will. So just find peace with yourself, and somehow it will all be okay. You are the keeper of your truths. You have the key, and you can lock and unlock it whenever you please. You are you, and you are true.
Chlorophyll123
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Sep 27, 2019
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Nothing. You know you are telling the truth. Its upto people to choose what they want to believe. Stick to telling your truth. If you think it is important that the other person believes you because they are important to you, make your argument strong with supporting and validating points. Don't embellish the truth. Don't make it a version of what the orginal truth is. Be yourself and stay authentic. Accept the consequences of your actions, and accept that you are not entitled to others believing your story.
Anonymous
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Oct 4, 2019
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Step One
Don't try to prove it to them beyond giving relevant details, it isn't worth going in circles on the internet
Step Two
Be genuine in how you explain that it's unfortunate that they don't believe you, but you do your best to be honest
Step three
Ask if they are willing to be referred to another listener or take you at your word.
Step Four
Either find them another listener, or continue the conversation by letting them know that if they continue to be accusatory you will end the conversation. (boundaries)
Step Five
Stick to your word. But, If you do have to end the conversation, offer to refer them a second time.
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