The Facebook "Seen" message gives me a lot of anxiety! When I see that the person has "seen" the message, but does not reply, I start thinking about all the possible reasons why they would 'ignore' me... Does anyone else feel this? If so, how do you cope?

The reason we feel pain when someone doesn’t text back is because it leaves time for us to 'over-analyze'. The stuff we said. The stuff we didn’t say. Did I showcase myself as too needy? Am I worthy? Am I annoying? Am I clingy? What went wrong? Will I ever get a reply? It’s not about this other person who didn’t text back. It’s mostly about us. It’s the questions we don’t want to honestly answer. It’s an emptiness that creates emotional discomfort. It lets us seep in our loneliness & feelings of self-doubt.The cause: -Too much emotional investment from our side. -Expecting reciprocity. - A lower subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth. Sometimes people delay giving a response because they’re busy and at other times, maybe they just don’t want to. There's a new (idiotic) fad these days to deliberately delay the responses to spark attraction.

I have been in your shoes before. I try to think about why the might to be able to answer me right away. For example, they might be at work or occupied with something at the moment. I personally give it a couple hours to see if they respond, if they don't, I send another message asking if they are busy. If it's causing you anxiety its good to use techniques to help and manage the anxiety you might be experiencing. Occupying yourself with an activity might help with calming your anxiety. Never be afraid to look at resources on the internet that can help with managing anxiety!

Try to see it as that person is busy and doesn’t always have time to answer every message instead of “they’ve ignored me they must really dislike me” many people struggle to keep up with an abundance of message and it’s about allowing them time to reply an letting them be peaceful also try to remember that everyone uses their phones in a different way and you never know what is going on in someone’s life therefore it's important to have and understand Without knowing everything p, not to presume but to remain calm in a situation as stated above

I understand the feeling. There are multiple reasons to a person not responding to your messages and leaving you on read. For example, if they are in a hurry and see the message, they might be like "Oh, that's cool, I'll reply to them later.". Another reason might be that they just don't know how to answer, which also happends from time to time. There's plenty of reasons, really, and them leaving you on read don't necessarily mean that they dont like you or are just ignoring you. If you feel like they do, try to wait a few hours after you sent the message, and if they don't reply even after that, then I feel like it's the best to message them about it.

Yes, I used to have this mentality about social media all the time. It makes you feel like if they had the choice to say something, why didn't they? However, with some time I realized that even though they have seen the message, there could be a bunch of reasons that they don't respond or feel the need not to. I worked on not taking things too personally, and if they choose not to respond then that's on them, and thinking about it too much will drain you. Usually there's a good reason that they don't respond, but at the end of the day it's their loss.

The Facebook " Seen" message gives you a lot of anxiety. I agree. It happens with me too Sometimes. The best way to avoid it to remember that the person might be busy too or might have been caught up into something or probably it's s natural end to the chat. The best way to avoid is that if you talk to that person again, tell them to not leave you at ' seen ' again. Or better yet, remind yourself that they might have caught into some stuffs or may not know how to reply to that. Just remember there's a life other Facebook too which is full of unpredictability.

Went through that a lot to be honest, it used to make me feel so frustrated and anxious and I start hating the other person for ignoring me, with time I myself started changing and understood that everyone has their own life and I even started reading texts then totally forget to reply, I never actually intend to do that and I apologize when I realize what I did because I know how frustrating it is for the other person but everyone is different after all. I tried my best to decision was not texting people who continuously leave me on seen and this made me feel way calmer

This feeling seems increasingly common among those who engage in the use of social media. I would venture to say that when someone sees, but doesn't immediately respond to a message, it is not necessarily the same as ignoring it. In fact, there are many reasons they might not write back (or might not be able to write back) immediately. Perhaps they are at work, or they don't know how to respond yet, perhaps they want to give your message the time it deserves. With this type of anxiety, it's important to try to avoid the rabbit hole of "why they haven't answered" and look inward at why it is distressing to you that they haven't answered. Are you looking for external validation that they aren't immediately providing? Do you feel undervalued as a friend? When you understand the cause of the anxiety, you are usually better apt to cope with it.

Not really. I guess I just think either there was nothing to say back because the conversation was basically over by that point or I think maybe they are busy & didn't have time to respond yet, only read. I don't see the point in stressing about someone else's response or lack thereof. Maybe one way to cope with it would be to distract yourself, get yourself to focus on other things rather than essentially waste energy & time on someone not responding to you. I don't have more to add I'm just trying to get to the 100 words now yay

From my personal experience, I usually give the other person his/her time to answer, as they might be busy. But this might not always be the case, so If I feel ignored, I usually discuss it with them (e.g. I felt ignored when you left me with the seen message) but this applies only to cases where a person lefts me in 'seen' for an extended period of time. However, I get that people tend to forget, even I do, so I am trying not to make a big deal out of this. At the moment I see 'seen', I usually take a cold bath to calm my anxiety at the moment.