The Facebook "Seen" message gives me a lot of anxiety! When I see that the person has "seen" the message, but does not reply, I start thinking about all the possible reasons why they would 'ignore' me... Does anyone else feel this? If so, how do you cope?

I think that social media, in general, can cause some anxiety for a lot of people. I am guilty of having anxiety and negative ("what if...") thoughts when I notice that someone has seen my message, but not responded. (I have also been diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder.) A way to cope with this is to challenge your thinking. You're already thinking up possible reasons why someone hasn't responded, so think of some reasons that aren't negative. Maybe they opened the message, but didn't actually read it yet? Maybe they read it, but didn't have time to respond? Maybe they got distracted and forgot to send a response? Maybe they are thinking about what they are going to say? Maybe they are having some anxiety about sending a response? (I am guilty of this due to social anxiety.) Another way to cope would be to get off of social media for a while.

I do feel like this sometimes. I practise recognising when I feel like this, and tell myself that most of the time this isn't personal. People are busy, people are anxious when replying, people get distracted. I forget to press the send button all the time. It's not about me, and if it is, there is nothing I can do. I have sent a message, it is their imperative to respond or not to respond. (easier said than done, but i think practise and being strict on yourself to not allow yourself to day dream about possible reasons for not responding helps). For people I am very close to, I don't have a trouble double texting them, or communicating how I feel about being left on seen - perhaps if they are busy they may react and then come back to it.

Yes , i feel that too , but i also remember the times when i see messages and I can't reply for many reasons , so i actually excuse them for not replying , and sometimes i send again as people can actually forget about messages and this not ignoring , but u know they may not remember unless there is a notification .. and also some people may just ignore , so you must first know how much this person is close to you ? Does this person usually ignore messages ? Have you done anything wrong for this person to ignore you ? Answering those questions would decrease the possibilities , and make you less anxious .. and also would make it more clear if it actually ignoring or not ..

This concern is very common, and most of people get nervous in these moments. There are a lot of reasons behind that, but trying not to overthink and accepting the idea we all different from, and every person has their own way to talk, and this way might not impress everyone. If we are talking about the first message in the chat that's something completely different, you have to think about this person setuation, they might not be free to answer you message, and if it seems they ignore you on purpose just quit messaging them, don't feel ashamed about it.

This is very normal and social media puts so much pressure on society and people. Most the time people are not ignoring you, they are simply busy and will reply later. The best thing to do is try and switch off. Send the message and put your phone away for a while. You can't control the situation or control when someone will reply. They will reply if they want to and you have to try and not make it personal about you. Know yourself and be strong in yourself to know a messgae can't make you happy. I even have notifications turned off so I don't see when someone replies as it helps to control the urge to keep checking. Find a method that works best for you.

Facebook "seen" message causes anxiety or not, it depends on who you are talking with. It that person is close to you and does not reply after seeing the message than one may feel anxiety. If I feel ignored then the way I cope with it is; 1. to wait for the other person to reply (if it's not habitual than that person surely replies back) 2. send the message like "text me back when you have time" or "get back on me later" etc 3. think positive (again if it's not habitual of that person then there will be a genuine reason for that) in my case sometimes when they text me later they also gave me the reason with that like "I was on job and couldn't reply", "my mom was talking to me at that time" or "my little sister open the text box of you and I came to know later on" etc

It also gives me some anxiety, because, at least in some discussions that are more personal or deep. I tend to get anxious because I think that the message I have written is wrong, or it upsets the other person. But the actual real reason for a seen might just be the fact that the person can't respond right away for that message, or he/she doesn't want to continue talking, at that moment. The way i cope with this is that i write to them something else that is different from the last message, or if the person is a close friend, i just write something like "why are you leaving me on seen" but in a fun way!

Yes that is very normal and very annoying. Honestly, I think its rude but you can't control a persons behavior. You can talk to them and hopefully that stop leaving you on seen and respond. Also think of this way they may be busy , at work, dealing with kids/spouse and was just checking to make sure it wasn't an emergency . When that fails, I firmly believe in treating people the way they treat me. Hopefully this helps you talk to the people and get a better understanding of each others feelings especially if the person is among your group of friends.

I've had this happen to me all the time and it does make me very nervous, especially if i don't know the person very well but I like the person. I always remember that I have done the same thing, where I would see someone's message and not respond and it's nothing personal, sometimes they may be busy, tired and forgetful. If there was a personal problem, I would expect the person to come out and tell me, not get nervous. It also never hurts to ask the person if you thing something may be wrong in the friendship or relationship.

yes, I used to and still feel it sometimes, Facebook and whatsapp blue ticks gives me anxiety , when they don't reply me. I overthink about why they are ignoring me, well to be honest there are many reasons for them to not replying, 1. they might be busy and cant reply 2 they might have had bad network 3 they dont want to talk and are actually ignoring you. any one of those is possible, but if this is happening very frequently it is better to not text them and stop overthinking when they dont reply. not everyone will be there in our life, respecting their choice and accepting that they wont worthy your time will make you feel better, also switch off your mobile for some tme if you keep checking apps for their reply.