The Facebook "Seen" message gives me a lot of anxiety! When I see that the person has "seen" the message, but does not reply, I start thinking about all the possible reasons why they would 'ignore' me... Does anyone else feel this? If so, how do you cope?

oh yes, i know exactly how you feel and I fall into that same trap all the time! When that happens, I take some deep breaths and remind myself of times where I have done the same thing. Generally I see it but I have to put my phone down to address something in my real life, or have to take care of something. Anxiety means well, but in it's effort to protect you. It can go overboard. Remind it that there are so many reasons that the person has seen your message without replying, and that it's not the end of the world. You will be okay, I promise.

I absolutely understand where you are coming from! The circle of friends that I have is small and close to my heart, so this is almost definitely something that freaks me out. I do not want to have the things that I hold dear drift away, as I feel that sudden a change would leave me alone without mechanism to cope or head space to find a resolution I can feel at ease with! As for an answer, mine is short and simple enough for at least myself, in theory. I cannot understand what other people are doing at all times, let alone most of the time, so why feed the nagging creature that thrives on assumptions being the worst! I do not like to think spite bubbles to the surface without reason enough for a person to muster up the energy to say, ignore a message for the sake of guiding that soul on an ego trip. Perhaps as an example, that person is a friend who is caught up in family issues that only happen to make life complex, or they themselves are at a point of emotional instability that could really benefit from the empathy and understanding of the world at large, even if only starting with a handful of well intended friends.

It depends on when you send the message and whom. Because if it is during workday, it is normal that people dont immediately reply. But if it is after work, you dont know if they are free or if they are doing something. There are a lot of reasons why people dont reply, even i sometimes dont write back on the same day because i am so tired and need a rest and it has nothing to do with the person who wrote to me. If you have doubts and cannot stand this, the best way to get a confirmation is by asking. You can find a way without being too pushy, to ask the person if they are ignoring you. But be honest and prepared for a real feedback.

I used to go through this myself, and-the consequence was anxiety, frustration and paranoia. A lot of frustration happened to those that I questioned were ignoring me. The best thing I've learnt is to message them only when I need to, so in my regard it would be a day or two before I hope to meet with them. Or I only ask them questions, and not go into any unnecessary small talk. That way they know I require an answer, and if there is a time limit, I can ask them again after a certain amount of time has passed. Otherwise, just keep yourself occupied. Ask "do I really need to send this? Could I just ask them when I see them?"

I understand the feeling all too well. It's never pleasant. I meet up with a friend that I often see once a week. I try to message them a day before I hope to meet up with her, and I make it clear that it's a question I'm asking that requires an answer. Or you can ask yourself if the message you want to send is really worth sending. Is there a better time to send it etc Once I've sent the message, I often go off of Facebook and keep myself occupied. People are busy. If I receive a message, I often tell myself I'll reply later, then forget. There's no harm in sending a follow up message - nothing nasty accusing them of ignoring you - after a good period of time has gone by, so you don't look needy.

I have the same problem, but honestly it depends on WHO i am texting. If i'm texting someone older than me who is a mom/works, i assure myself that it's ok, that i know they're busy and they WILL reply when they have time. And my friends go to college and i don't and sometimes it takes days for them to reply. Which you can imagine my anxiety. Especially when i ask one of them if they wanna hang out and they don't reply i get so anxious i end up deleting the message all together. But i know that they have school and all the homework they have to deal with and they may not be coping well with it so i know they're not ignoring me because i KNOW my friends love me very much so if they HAD the time they'd definetely reply to me. So i'd say you have to asssure yourself the facts, think about they're life and what they could be doing, and they will reply when they have the time. I used to suffer greatly from thia but by reassuring myself i've learnt to cope. Hope i helped❤❤

i understand it sometimes feels confusing what to make out of it. Many thoughts creep into mind like Is the person ignoring me? is the message seen by someone else? i hope he is not in some problem?. And actually all these an be a possibility. for me, i trey to see the importance or urgency of the reply. Sometimes if my message is just to convey some information, its ok if the person had read it didnt reply. If its some important reply i expect, i wait for some before messaging again or if urgent, calling up the person. At my end, i feel the anxiety that goes in senders mind in such situation and i make it a point to acknowledge the message even if y simple smiley or ok or thanks or will message later.

It happens to lot of us, including me. This happens when we want the other person to reply as soon as possible. There could be many reasons why this happens. Ill try to put in few general reasons that could happen, but no one is alike and situations differ. But what we need to realize is that : 1. The other person might have see it but had some other work and will eventually get back to us 2. The person is ignoring us and we cant do much about it 3. Dont think to much about it 4. Imagine ourselves in their shoes, we do the same 1, 2 to others so.

It is normal to feel a bit anxious when the person has only seen the message and not read it, especially if it someone important to you. When it happens, you should remember that maybe something happened to that person (someone called him etc...) so he can't reply right away. Sometimes it happens that someone simply forgot to reply: give him some time then write again. Also, maybe he doesn't know how to continue the conversation so he doesn't write anything. If it happens to me, I usually wait some time, then if I don't get the message, I try to write to that person again. If he doesn't answer also the second time, I stop writing to him and I try to ask him why he does that.

It is understandable that you or anyone might have such a reaction, but when you apply some reason, it re-frames the situation. For instance, there are several circumstances whereby you (one) might see the message but not be able to reply in that moment (carrying something that has their hands full, sitting with a group of people, or on a deadline. Because we aren't right with them when we send the message, we cannot actually see what they're doing, so it is better not to make assumptions. Then, if they never respond, again apply logic. They may have forgotten or become caught up in other tasks. Never assume it is personal.