The Facebook "Seen" message gives me a lot of anxiety! When I see that the person has "seen" the message, but does not reply, I start thinking about all the possible reasons why they would 'ignore' me... Does anyone else feel this? If so, how do you cope?

A lot of people do feel this way. It can often cause a feeling of rejection, when the message is seen and not replied to. One of the best ways to cope, it to try not to overthink it too much. There could be so many different possibilities as to why the person has only seen your message and not replied to it yet. They could be busy and not have time to reply or could be having a rough day and might not feel like talking right now. There are so many different reasons why someone hasn't replied to your message and it might make you feel a little bit hurt, but one of the best ways to cope with this is to try and distract yourself if it really bothers you that much. Don't make yourself so readily available that you're sitting and waiting anxiously for a reply. Do some housework, play with a pet (if you have one), watch t.v for a while, colour in, do some homework. Try and find something to distract yourself for awhile so that you're not overthinking and stressing out about it. They will reply when they're ready, stressing out about it won't make them reply any faster.

Often there is a perfectly reasonable explanation for this such as the person may be busy at that matter of time. They perhaps intent to respond to your message whenever they get a chance however often we are so busy that we forget. Lifestyles nowadays are crammed and we as humans are trying to fit more and more into our already busy days. Speak with the person and explain how this is making you feel. Perhaps innocently the person in question is not deliberately trying to make you feel like way, they could be unaware of how their actions are making you feel.

People are busy even when they are online. Who doesn't like checking social media when they've got some work to do. -Ask them again or let them reply when they have time. It's just the fear of being ignored. When there is a certain amount of uncertainty, our mind just makes up the worst case scenario which is not true most of the times. -If someone doesn't text you back immediately, they're probably thinking of what to reply or they've got some work to do and they decided to reply back later. -I sometimes open the message box and I don't read the message because I will have other work to do. It's just the urge to check my phone but soon I realise that I should be studying or working. -If the message is important, just call them

Facebook often times shows a "seen" even if the person hasn't been online in days. It's a very common glitch. Many people feel this way and it gives them extreme anxiety. Its normal to feel like someones ignoring you, but most of the time they are not. If you're worried that they are, either ask them about it or try to do something else to occupy your mind while you wait. Watch videos, draw something, listen to music, clean. Just keep your mind away from it until the message you back. If they don't you can message them again or try and forget about it as a whole.

I am not feeling this anymore. Previously, I would be upset if I don’t receive the feedback for a message. Later I began to understand that some times they are busy, and other times they might not want to reply. There is simply not necessary for me to wait for their message. I would say doing something else to distract yourself if a good strategy if you feel anxiety about something, sometimes your thought changes with you mood. When you are in good mood, you start to think positively. When I was feeling anxious, I also seek internet to check whether I can find any solution there.

Do you have any idea how many times I have opened the message but mentally replied? Yes, I am one of those shameful people. Has anyone not even realised that they opened the message? Yes, me also. There are so many reasons behind this and it gobbles us up with anxiety wondering what we have done wrong - why aren't they replying to me? Well, you know what, there are millions of possibilities that they aren't as horrifying as you think. They could have simply fallen asleep, caught up on something to make them busy and forgotten to come back to the conversation, they could be going through something, they could be socially-anxious and do not know how to talk to people. There are so many possibilities and it is important to not let the fear of the unknown get to us :)

I can feel you my friend; I too suffer from those anxieties, so there are only two case scenarios when a person left you on seen, the best case scenario is he/she is genuinely busy and forgot to reply and worst case scenario is that they are ignoring you, if the person is really busy and forgot to message they would soon notice it may be tell you they were busy and might apologise but if their intention was to ignore you they would keep doing that and act like nothing happened, well they are the toxic people which are affecting your life and facebook in general is toxic as it affects your self esteem by those last seens, followers and number of friends, likes and comments everything is on numbers, more the merrier and if less then anxiety, I usually take time off from such social medias whenever it affects me and when I come back I talk to the person who genuinely wants to talk to me and if anyone leaves me on seen, I ask them were they busy and if they ignore me further I just stop texting them, its better one less toxic chat, so don't get affected by it, just move on and talk to the people who value you.

Lots if people feel this, it is certainly not uncommon. It seems as though you are feeling lots of anxiety and worry and even fear over what other people are thinking about you. Trust me when I say they are not ‘ignoring you’. Think about what you, yourself do when someone messages you. Do you always read it and respond immediately? There are countless ways to cope and conquer this fear. You can message someone then not check the messages until you get a notification. This is more of a short term fix. If you are looking for - long term solution. You should work on self confidence that way, other’s opinions and ‘ignoring’ will leave you unaffected. :)

It is stressful to know that somebody has read your reply but hasn’t replied to you. Sometimes it is best to leave the chat and simply wait until they do respond. Worrying too much about the timeliness of a response is additional stress to putting yourself out there. It is also quite helpful to put yourself in their shoes and think that maybe there is an outside factor preventing them from responding immediately to your message. Instant gratification is a constant issue in society today but it is manageable and we can find ways to reduce the stress and pressure we hold around it.

Just take deep breaths and relax. People may be busy or unable to respond to you! Just give that person time to respond. They may not want to rush a message to you out of respect :) I find focusing on yourself and concentrating on positive aspects of your life helps drain out the anxiety! With social media the anxiety rate has risen dramatically, it is important to remember that people are busy and will find time to respond to you when they get the chance! And if it is causing great stress just talk to them about it the next time you see or chat to them and give them the chance to explain! This will help greatly.