The Facebook "Seen" message gives me a lot of anxiety! When I see that the person has "seen" the message, but does not reply, I start thinking about all the possible reasons why they would 'ignore' me... Does anyone else feel this? If so, how do you cope?

Yeah I feel this but you know I divert my mind I don't think negatively I just think In positive way may be he or she is busy may be he or she have some important work to do or may be he need some time so I should give him or her some time that's all I do

this is a common thought! you have to deal with it by trying not to look at your phone so often to see if they’ve read it as this can make you more anxious. they may have seen it but they could be busy - maybe at work or someone has just rung them.

I think there's too much pressure because of the read receipts in messaging apps. But the thing is even if they are "active now" or they've "seen" your message doesn't mean they really ARE available for that conversation at that very moment. Sometimes people are just busy or preoccupied with other things to reply, or maybe they're taking their time to think of what to say before getting back to you. Personally, I just send them a message and let it be, as long as it's not urgent. I just send a message and do something else instead. I don't always reply to my messages instantaneously, so I give the same courtesy to others.

I understand that worry, but I would tell you (in that moment of panic) to think of all the times you may of accidentally opened a message without realising it. Or maybe opened it and gotten distracted, but answered later. That's the same for most people! If it's an urgent message, that went unanswered, don't feel scared to send another to prompt them. I know it's easy to think of the worst scenario (like being ignored) but remember, that's the anxiety talking, it's most likely distraction, the person being busy, or forgetfulness! I hope this helps :)

I feel this way all the time, its a result of to high of expectation. You start to set a step for yourself that's to high, and you start thinking the other person expects a lot out of you. Something my counselor and I do is try to come up with silly, positive resons why they might be busy. Like maybe they are dancing alone in their underpants, or getting distracted by thinking of something random like how goldfish only have an attention span of one second! Then we laugh and find something to occupy us (something not related to the phone like cleaning, singing, coloring etc.) Until they respond.

I dleted my Facebook account a long time ago. When I still used it, I myself ignored messages sometimes. I was at work, in a meeting, in the restroom, talking to someone about an urgent matter, etc. Sometimes I read it and assume it doesn't require a response. You could try saying things like, " so what do you think, what would you do, I would really appreciate your opinion, talking to you would really be great" express the need to be acknowledged.

I try and remember that there are a lot of reason why someone may leave you on read, and almost all reasons are not negative. As someone who is easily forgetful, i tend to leave people on seen more than i should. I read it, go to do something else quick then get distracted. A lot of the times, people get distracted, but still really want to talk to you!

We have to remember that social media is a way to communicate but not everyone is going to react or reply to any messages. This does not necessarily mean they are ignoring you they maybe busy or don't have anything to add to your post.

I'm gonna try to think back to myself about the times I did all that, and it was usually not because of some personal matters, instead I just forgot, or weren't able to do that at the moment.

Try telling yourself that they are taking a dump - for a long, long time. Also - do try and get off Facebook, it has been statistically proven to make people happier and a lot less angry.