The Facebook "Seen" message gives me a lot of anxiety! When I see that the person has "seen" the message, but does not reply, I start thinking about all the possible reasons why they would 'ignore' me... Does anyone else feel this? If so, how do you cope?

I tend to try to reframe my perspective when I get anxious about someone possibly ignoring me. Perhaps they opened the message by accident and didn't actually read it? Perhaps they meant to reply but got distracted? I think about how when I don't reply to people, it isn't usually because I am ignoring them.

Yes I feel like this sometimes. I just put myself in their shoes as to why they may not respond right away. It may be that they are busy, driving, working, accidentally seen the message, etc and can't respond right away. If they don't respond at all, I just tell myself that they simply forgot and thats okay. I have done that to others unintentionally!

What I would do in this situation, any next time you find yourself into anxiety because of someone not responding, sit with your anxiety and write down every thought and feeling about it. This will help you to understand what is really causing you to feel like u can track down the real core and then deal with that afterwards. Allow it few times so you can get as many indicators as possible ;)

You're yourself. If they leave you with a seen, go about your day and let that seen be there. It's you who matters above all.

A lot of times you just have to understand people have lives and many times a busy scheduled day. For example while I’m on break (15) I may read messages (plural) and may have time to reply to one or two. Frankly, I wouldn’t read to much into why or why not a someone did not response but just seen my message. Unless your speaking specifically of a significant other. Then I kinda understand from that stance. Though, if it bother you that much make a video call or leave another message asking why no reply? Many times people are demanding and not considerate of their FB friends lives. Ever considered this person may also going through a lot?

I did this today. I was in a negative mind frame anyway and this just fuelled the fire. Normally it can help if you get a pad. List down all your negative thoughts about it then for each negative ask and what could be a neutral or positive explanation for the non answer. It my case the one who didn't answer was out of the house and out of data!!

Knowing that someone has seen a message and has not replied feels like I'm being rejected at times. I remind myself that even if they've seen it, they may not want to reply or they may be too busy at that time to reply. At times when I experience that anxiety, I find a way to distract myself by doing activities that will make it hard for me to think about it. After some time passes, I may reach out to that person again.

I definitely experience this too.. What I try to do in those situations is think about all the times I didn't immediately respond to someone despite reading the message and all the different reasons why I didn't. It usually helps me to think about this, because I realise that I do it a lot too and it's usually just because I'm busy with something else or have to think about an answer, so that's most likely what's happening the other way around with them now.

I used to feel like that until I was on the recipient side and could not respond right away due to being busy at work or other things going on and I understood that there could be many reasons why that person hasn't responded so thinking that helped me relax more.

I feel the same sometimes, especially if the person is very close to you. I guess, That’s normal to feel that way. Everyone should feel the same way. But if you take it personally that will tear you apart. The suitable option to cope with something like that is put yourself in their shoes. Probably they are busy. And you did your part, it’s their choice to reply or not. So be happy about your self because you spoke to them first, perhaps they might feel guilty for not replying you back. So enjoy your self, turn your attention to something important which will make you happy about, talk to another person, and watch some funny clips or movies. It’s not the end of the world, there are many fish in the sea.