The Facebook "Seen" message gives me a lot of anxiety! When I see that the person has "seen" the message, but does not reply, I start thinking about all the possible reasons why they would 'ignore' me... Does anyone else feel this? If so, how do you cope?

You just need to understand that they might seen it but been in a place where they just couldn't answer right away. I too have this happen to me....but it is not something that matters to me as much, not overlooking though how it affects you.... The message might not been as important to them as it was for you..... Ppl are all different and certain things mean differently to is all.... 💔 sorry you hurt .

It's a very natural thing to "fear the unknown" - we don't know what's on the other side of the, let's say, screen. Fear/anxiety is a feeling we create in our minds. With practice and persistence we can train/trick our minds into believing we are fearless. Anxiety is a symptom of the fight, flight, or freeze method (FFF). Without fear we are free.

Seeing the seen messages but no reply often sets me on edge! To cope I feel it is important to first recognise all the times you haven't replied instantly and how busy some people can be. The person reading the message probably took note of it and will get back as soon as they can! Another possibility is they don't have anything they feel they can contribute to the conversation or are unsure of how to carry on the conversation. Chances are the people you are talking to have no reason or desire to ignore.

Yes, i get this too and i constantly worry that i've upset or offended someone. I feel great relief when they finally answer and everything feels ok again. I think it's because there's no feedback like you'd get in a face to face conversation, so you can't see how the other person is taking it. I try to distract myself when it happens otherwise i end up staring at it and it feels like my world is about to end. I find other things to do, watch netflix, read news websites, catch up on emails, and force myself to give reasons why they may not be answering right now which don't involve hating me (for example: maybe they are in the middle of cooking dinner and just checked the message on their phone. Maybe they are out shopping? Maybe they have people to deal with someone face to face right now and it wouldn't be acceptable to be typing on the phone?). Personally, i'm quite diligent about answering messages quickly so i struggle to understand why they can't at least acknowledge me, but i get that this is unreasonable so defer to the above advice for myself.

I feel a lot of people experience anxiety with the "seen" message, the thought of being ignored is never a good thought, personally I for a while had the same fear, but I took a break from social media for a month, and when I got back I didn't feel as bad about being ignored.

This happens to me all the time. Especially when they respond fast sometimes and not others. I find a distraction when I’m anxiously waiting for a message. Because the longer you dwell and stare at it, the more it builds up. Walk away from the computer, put your phone down. Go do something productive around the house or for yourself and come back. They’re not always ignoring you. Real life happens outside of the computer world.

I personally try not to overthink things even though it can be very hard. I try to remember that whoever I am messaging always has the possibility of simply getting caught up doing something else. :)

First of all, chillax. Maybe, the person is busy and doesn't have time to chat then. My suggestion is don't open the chat. You automatically get a notification when the person sends you a message, right? So I don't think you will miss anything.

I feel this all the time! But then I have to stop and think - how many times was I interrupted just after I saw someone's message to me? There are so many things that could have happened, so I remind myself to try to not take it too personally.

I use to take it really personal when someone would leave me on "seen." I would start re-reading messages, and obsessing over something I could have said to make that person ignore me. I would remind yourself that people get busy throughout the day, and don't always remember that they read the message.