The Facebook "Seen" message gives me a lot of anxiety! When I see that the person has "seen" the message, but does not reply, I start thinking about all the possible reasons why they would 'ignore' me... Does anyone else feel this? If so, how do you cope?

seen status of the message can happen many ways. Sometimes, kids or spouse access the messanger other time in hurry or while driving or doing something critical or safety related stuff the recipient might browsed which causes the seen status Until, response is negative, it is worth leaving things neutral

This happens to me on a regular basis. Some people are just good at getting back to others and some are not. I find different ways to cope. Either only check once a day so it doesn't consume you. Or find an alternative way to chat. That's my two cents. Great question!!

i definitely feel the same. i guess the way i cope with it is to just not think the worst. i just say that they might be busy or maybe accidentally opened the chat and forgot about it.

I totally feel this! Recently, I have decided not to care as much. I tell myself "I could have read this in between things or during a 5m break at work and I will reply when I am able and ready, they will know I wasn't ignoring with that reply, so I do not need to worry."

I personally hate it when people do this to me. So I either remind myself if the person is usually responsive that they are probably busy and could have gotten caught up. If this frequently occurs, I consider dumping the friend because that's really quite unacceptable if it happens too much

I know it's frustrating, but you can't change other people. What I do is I try prompting them to see if they're there, and if they don't respond to that...then I accept that maybe they don't want to talk to me right now, and I let it go. If the person avoids you on a regular basis though, you may want to find a way to confront them or just break off the relationship.

There could be many reasons, they could have accidentally clicked it (like if the phone was in their pocket) or they may have left the chat up. Maybe they're just busy and will get back soon? Sometimes the message even fails to show on one side but still counts as sent, so when someone opens their messages it counts as "read".

I feel this way as well! Sometimes you have to realize that if they are ignoring you then it is within themselves and they shouldn't be a part of your life if they do not feel the need to speak to you. Focus on those around you who do not make you feel this way.

I have definitely experienced this, so you are certainly not alone! I cope by reminding myself that sometimes I see messages and want to read them but get caught up doing other things. Life is so busy! And reminding myself that it can sometimes take me days to reply to a Facebook message (especially when I am feeling low!) and that sometimes I even need a nudge or reminder that it is there. Coping is a funny thing. So is anxiety. In order to cope with that icky anxious feeling, it sometimes helps me to remind myself that it is just anxiety, and just a feeling, and that it will pass just as it has before! It doesn't last forever and it also is only a thought rather than a reality! :)

You're definitely not alone there, but try and remember that the person is probably paying far less attention to the situation than you are - while you're worried about their response to you, they have likely just forgotten to respond to their messages! Their phone might have died, or they might have been called over by somebody irl and would have felt rude staying on to their phone - not realising that the "Seen" message would worry you. If you can imagine all the distractions which might have pulled them away from their phone, this should hopefully help you see that they're not doing it personally towards you, it's just a thoughtless accident. Besides, no one would ignore you personally unless they were just having a really bad day and felt generally snappy, which is nothing to do with how they feel towards you!