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Should I tell my husband I cheated on him?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 20, 2016
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Yes. Chances are good you'd never be able to live comfortably with yourself by keeping it from him if you have any interest in salvaging the relationship. And he deserves to know, so he can make the right decision for himself.
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CosmicCubes on Mar 12, 2016
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Honestly, I would. If your husband had cheated on you, the only way he might make your pain worse is if he kept it a secret and hoped that you never found out, which, in a married relationship, is almost equivalent to flat-out lying. The main thing that will tie you together is your trust for one another, and honestly if you try, you both can work past this and start again. What's most important though is that you do make that choice to try again, and to work together. If he finds out another way, he may end up jumping to conclusions, or worse he may not even get the whole true story. Better to have faith he can forgive you than to run the risk of hurting him so badly that he can't anymore.
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Anonymous on Feb 17, 2016
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yes because it could posslbly save your relationship and he may be understanding
Profile: ConnyK
ConnyK on Feb 17, 2016
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Being honest with yourself is the least you could do to be at peace with yourself. Telling him or not is up to your judgement, but consider yourself in his shoes and how you'd feel if you did either way. Would you appreciate honesty, be okay if you didn't know or just get angry?
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Anonymous on Apr 16, 2016
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It is your decision to do so or not, but remember it is always best to be honest even though the truth may hurt.
Profile: EternalEngine
EternalEngine on Nov 13, 2018
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Cheating or infidelity of any sort, whether emotional or physical, is a delicate situation for both the one who did the cheating and the person who was cheated on. Please remember this going forward! Your husband, in my personal opinion, has every right to know what is going on in your life. Traditional marriage is a vow made between two people to stand by each other (as long as it was a voluntary marriage, not a forced one) through thick and thin, and essentially a promise to love each other until one of you passes away. Of course, I speak of the ideal scenario here! With all of that being said, if I were in your shoes, I would be asking myself a few questions. Do I love my husband? Do I respect him? Do I value him as a person and care about what he thinks of me? If the answer to any of those questions is yes, then I would tell him, no matter how difficult it would be. I won't beat around the bush - If you cheated on someone, whether you're married or not, is a violation of that loyalty the other person most likely expects from you, and it is your responsibility to determine whether or not you should be in the relationship in the first place. Without more context (are you in a healthy relationship? are things very difficult with your husband?) it is very difficult to give an appropriate "one size fits all" answer. Generally, cheating is looked down upon by most people.
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Yourfairygodbro on Feb 13, 2016
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Yes, honesty is best. He deserves to know because it'd be unfair for him to be completely blind to what's going on. The truth will come out eventually and it's better that you tell him before anyone else in most scenarios.
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Anonymous on Mar 17, 2016
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yes you should... talk to him politely make him clam make him understand your situations and apologize (if you wish too) from heart.
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Anonymous on Apr 15, 2016
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Yes...It is something he absolutely needs to know. If you dont do it slowly it will kill your relationship and your feelings for him because your love wont be pure anymore!
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Anonymous on Apr 21, 2016
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Yes. In a relationship, honesty is one of the most important things, and neglecting to tell him that you cheated will only make things worse when he inevitably finds out in the future. Be upfront about it and accept that he will most likely be upset with you.
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