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My boyfriend cheated on me twice with his ex both times after drinking..Why do I still get anxiety when he goes out drinking when it's been 5 months of no cheating?

Profile: Doggieears113
Doggieears113 on Jan 15, 2018
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Memories stay for a very long time. It's hard to forget and let go. Talk to him that you're still insecure. It'll help.
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Profile: Callaghanistan
Callaghanistan on Apr 3, 2018
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That's natural. You have been hurt in the same way before so it is okay that you feel scared and anxious when he goes out to drink. Since he's done it before it's okay for you to be wary and the way you feel is perfectly fine and totally understandable. I hope I was able to help!
Profile: DiamondBackRobert24
DiamondBackRobert24 on Jun 25, 2018
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After being cheated on, it is understandable that you would feel anxious when he goes out drinking. You still have the fear that if it happened once, it will happen again.
Profile: vertige80
vertige80 on Aug 7, 2018
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The memory was probably very traumatic for you since it wasn't just once but twice. It'll probably be a while longer until you're anxiety goes away but I definitely think talking about it was someone as well as your boyfriend would be beneficial!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 19, 2019
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Hello, I understand your concerns as the trust that was broken by his behavior It is good that you are talking about this and learning from it. Trust is the back bone of all relationships. Being aware that we all make mistakes and have the ability to forgive doesnt mean we forget. Drinking can lower inhabitions, and i to have some anxiety when my girlfriend goes out with her girlfriends too, so it understandable that you feel this way. I think most people at some point have experienced anxiety over the potential risks involved when our partner goes out drinking.
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