Is my partner "good enough"or my relationship "real"?

That is entirely on how you feel about your partner and how they feel about you and if they take your relationship serious enough like yours.

Doubt is very normal in a relationship and no reason to be scared. Of course it's hard to know who to trust with your feelings but aslong as you can speak your mind freely and you feel like you and you partner care for each other I'm sure your relationship is real and you chose a good partner for yourself.

I do believe my partner is more than good enough. Even though they don't believe so, I think they are more than I could ever deserve. I also believe that my relationship is real. There were times when I couldn't beleive it was. I felt like there was no way I could be in a relationship with someone so amazing, but eventually. I began to come around and I became happy.

Thank you for your question, in such an important topic. We all question at one point or another, if we are "good enough" for something... and here in lies the importance of whose perspective are we good enough for? We only have to be good enough for ourselves... and that good enough changes from minute to minute, to day to day. We can only truly do our best at that very moment in time, and that has to be good enough! For the question if your relationship is "real" is only based on if you want it to be real? We can only provide half of something in any relationship. Us wanting something more than another person does not make something any less "real." It only shows the importance of that relationship in that given moment to each person. Giving more than 100%, when another person only gives 5% for example, does not and will never add up. A relationship is just that... a relationship which takes two people working together, giving each of themselves to work together. You are good enough, and your relationship feels real to you, and that is the only thing that matters. If it is real enough to someone else, is their challenge.

Only you can decide if your partner is "good enough." Are they meeting your needs? Are they a person with whom you can grow and have a healthy relationship? Those are good signs. As for your relationship, if you and your partner both treat it as a real relationship, then it is one.

Every relationship is 'real' good enough is a different question and you need to clarify the question by being honest with yourself.