How to stop thinking about someone who hurt you?
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Updated: Jun 28, 2021
Anonymous
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Mar 11, 2016
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Do something you enjoy- eg hanging out with people you trust. This will help distract your mind and will help you stop thinking about the person.
weCanBeTheChange16
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Mar 11, 2016
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You can't, you'll always think about them because they hurt you but you can forgive them it helps you move on from it
Anonymous
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Mar 12, 2016
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You should delete the stuff you shared with that person and try to surround yourself with people who love you
peacefulIris56
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Apr 16, 2016
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Look at all of the positive times you have had with that person. Come to realize that sometimes they are people who really want us to be happy but they made bad choice. Let go, forgive and keep moving on.
Anonymous
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Apr 21, 2016
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Well, trying to suppress thoughts typically only makes it worse. Instead, it's important to try to refocus your thoughts.
Popsicle1990
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Apr 24, 2016
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Keep Busy! It is really the only way in the beginning. Go out talk to friends, do things that make you happy and soon it will fade.
supportiveBalloon58
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May 8, 2016
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Think about someone who supported you. You can counteract the negativity with positivity. This is a good way to stop thinking about someone who hurt you.
EmmaJosephine
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Nov 8, 2016
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By realising that all that mental space you are wasting on thinking about them, can be filled with positive thoughts and ideas instead. Also by forgiving them, doesn't mean you should excuse their actions, it just means you let go of how it is affecting you.
TogetherForeverAlways
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Jan 8, 2018
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In a simple sentence but much more difficult done than said: find people to love and replace those sad and damaging thoughts with new positive ones, memories you will cherish.
Rebekah
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Feb 23, 2020
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This is a really tough one. Sometimes we're mentally scarred by the people we love who hurt us, more than a random person who could hurt us. This is normal - we don't want, or even expect, the people we love to hurt us. Usually, there isn't really any sole way to stop thinking about them. Perhaps, there could be some ways to help manage the thinking, such as spending time with other people, or doing things that you really enjoy, which could really be effective in taking your mind off things. Only you know what's best for you. What do you enjoy? What do you love? The answers to these things could be the answer to your question.
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