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How to stop thinking about a guy who dumped you or is bad for you?

Profile: Remina
Remina on Jul 16, 2016
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Normally when I want to stop thinking about something, I try thinking about something else. Another thing you can try is whenever you have a thought of him, bite into a lemon. Eventually your brain will register any thought of him as sour and you might want to think of him less. It's called Operant conditioning.
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Profile: AnnieWizz
AnnieWizz on Feb 27, 2016
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Why do we necessarily want to stop thinking about guy? The memory will still be sitting in your subconscious mind. By trying to forget by blocking things away the problem will simply fester and come back to haunt you later when you are most vulnerable. Maybe it is better to try for a cognitive shift, basically to change how you think about the situation. By changing your view to one of understanding and acceptance you can better help yourself deal with the situation and move forward.
Profile: Nagisa
Nagisa on Mar 9, 2016
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Remember that you are a wonderful person who deserves to be happy. Accept what is gone and cherish the happy moments as they are part of who you are but also remember that you have a future. The end of a relationship is not the end of your life and happiness.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 11, 2016
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Realise your worth , you deserve someone who is going to appreciAte you and treat you like a queen girlfriend
Profile: GentleNinja
GentleNinja on Mar 6, 2016
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I understand it can be a struggle to stop thinking about an ex boyfriend who is bad for you. Here are a few things you can try to stop thinking about him. First is recognize when you think about him. As soon as you recognize your thinking about him consciously try to stop thinking about him. When possible avoid things that trigger thoughts about him. For example if it is when you listen to a certain song then stop listening to that song. If it is all the time and it doesn't matter what your doing that strikes up the thoughts about him then try using a distraction. I have found distractions to be one of the best ways to fight off those thoughts. Hang out with friends and go out to do something fun. Do something you love to do that will distract you. This could mean reading, watching a movie, listening to music, going for a run, looking at funny cat photos, getting involved in sports, solving puzzles, etc. Use the energy that you normally use thinking about him towards something that is fun and a distraction. It takes time to stop thinking about someone that you once loved. Each time that you practice avoiding or stopping thoughts about him it will get easier. It will be really hard at first but I have confidence that you will be able to make it through if you consciously try to get over this situation. If you feel you cannot stop a thought about him try to remind yourself of a couple reasons why he was bad for you. Sometimes you need that reminder to keep your thoughts off of wanting him back. If he is bad for you then he does not deserve your attention. Pay more attention to what you need and want. Try not to focus on the past instead focus your attention on the bright future.
Profile: casicanhelp
casicanhelp on Mar 2, 2016
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It's not easy to get over a guy who has hurt you/is bad for you, especially if you really had feelings for you. No heartbreak can be fixed in a day-- only time can heal.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 21, 2016
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To be honest, it will mostly take a lot of time. try distracting yourself, keep busy with friends or hobbies. try not to get stuck in the past by always thinking about the memories you share
Profile: Yourfairygodbro
Yourfairygodbro on Feb 13, 2016
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You could write down your thoughts and decide what's the healthiest thing fofrr you to do next. You can't stop thinking about them immedietly but you could try debating yourself about why they don't belong in your life and how if they did, they would've showed you that more obviously.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 25, 2016
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Understand your self worth. Acknowledge the mistakes they made, and remember that you deserve better and that there are people that are better worth your time out there. It will be worth waiting to fine the right person :)
Profile: Vaux
Vaux on Feb 26, 2016
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You should vent in a sort of journal or book, then delete anything that reminds you of that person you still care for.
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