How to stop overthinking things in a relationship?

Hi there, I know overthinking can make relationships difficult, so I hope this answer helps you out! Personally what I find helps the most is "instead of thinking - talk." What I mean is that instead of overthinking, sit down with your partner and talk to them about what you are thinking, where your mind goes when you overthink, and why you might be thinking so much about a particular topic. Sometimes the other person knowing how our thoughts process is all the comfort we need, and be enough to help us stop overthinking. If this doesn't work, I would suggest journalling. Sometimes we overthink for no reason, and maybe getting the thoughts out of your head will help. I personally journal on my computer because I can type faster than write - so I can keep up with all those racing-overthinking-thoughts. It doesn't have to be eloquent or "put together", just get your thoughts out. I hope this helps you a little. I know communication can be difficult but I've found it the best approach. I hope if you do try journalling that you find it very therapeutic.

Analysis leads to paralysis, this is a classic quotation that is used when a person thinks to much about how to handle a situation. Some things people need to learn in life, this is something I have learned in my journey of social self improvement, but I would say to not worry about the other person when it comes to specific things. If you have good intentions what you say or do will be fine.

Sometimes it's like a big puzzle. Thousand of potential pieces which could connect, and show a picture of a "perfect" love. But sometimes, they don't really fit. And we kinda force them to. Even though the picture isn't what it's supposed to be, we don't care. We only see what we want to. We want the puzzle to fit. But we can't really finish it that way. The puzzle will be flawed. We don't fight against gravity. Some things just are. Some pieces fit, but show a picture we don't really like. But nothing ever is truly perfect. We just have to complete the puzzle and take it for what it is. An un-perfect piece of art.

Understand that you are perfect to them, or they would not be with you. Someone who loves someone else will view them as perfect, no matter what.

Relationships are very complex. Try to stay open minded and have open communication with your partner. If you talk to them about it, they may understand or give you some positive reinforcement.

First of all why overthinking it can lead you to think negative thoughts , try to adapt positive things and be happy and simply divert your mind .

It's not easy to stop overthinking things in a relationship because it is a very important aspect of your life. In fact, if you are in a serious relationship, it is natural for you to reflect on it because it means a lot to you. However, there is a special type of thinking you should try to avoid: worry about what your partner thinks. You might be worried that your significant other does not love you back. You might be worried that your significant other doesn't find you attractive. You might be worried that your significant other is cheating on you. These are all legitimate concerns; however, it is undeniable that there is nothing you can do to change the way someone else thinks. Worrying about your own feelings and actions is wonderful because you will be a better person as a result. However, worrying about what the other person thinks will not change a thing. I hope you won't spend your precious time and energy on something you cannot change. Focus on yourself instead.

Trust. Trust your partner, trust when they tell you what they are doing, overthinking leads to you seeming insecure and questioning your partner and making them feel interrogated, I have learned from personal experience that the best thing is to just trust them in what they say and what they do.

Probably just to communicate and be very open and honest about what you want. Communication is the key to any good relationship, platonic or romantic.

Personally, the answer to how not to overthink sounds simple, but has been just as difficult to myself as it likely has been for a lot of people wondering. It's a two-dose helping though. It takes both Trust and Communication. In trusting the person you are in a relationship with, it becomes easier to calm yourself should you begin to overthink. The second part, Communication, is just talking out the things you're overthinking about with your relationship partner, So that clarity is achieved and you aren't left wondering what is going on, Leading to the overthinking problem. Of course, this trust and communication has to work both ways to work, But regardless, it has been the most effective means of stopping myself from overthinking.