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How to stop overthinking things in a relationship?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 28, 2021
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A good way to help prevent overthinking in a relationship is to be open and honest with your partner. If you have a problem then speak to your partner and this can stop it from snowballing. When you have this open line of communication and full understanding of your partner then it is much more difficult to overthink as you will be able to find the answer to your questions and problems easily rather than just ruminating on them. This open line of communication will also mean your partner understands you and can tell when you begin to overthink and therefore can work to reassure you before you even outwardly show that that is what you need.
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Classyelephant on Feb 28, 2021
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insecurity is the main cause for overthinking,So better talk out and clear misunderstandings and enjoy the current phase of relationship. Instead of always thinking about what the future holds and the end goal of the relationship, take time to enjoy whatever phase you’re in currently. If worrying about the future has become a deeply engrained habit, it might take some time to adjust. But keep correcting yourself and soon you'll be more focused on what's going on around you instead of what may or may not happen down the road. so better stop overthinking about it and start enjoying current phase of relationship.
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TracyBeeee on Mar 20, 2021
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In a relationship, especially a romantic one, communication is the most important thing. If you are unhappy in a relationship it is important to communicate this to your partner. Overthinking may stem from a source of untrust in the relationship, especially if something has occurred in the relationship causing you to trust them less. But if you're overthinking their actions it is always best to talk to them about it. Tell them how you're feeling. A partner who really cares about you has your best interests at heart and will want to hear you out and help. After communicating with them, ask for their perspective and listen to what they have to say; communication involves voicing your own opinions but it also involves actively listening to theirs as well.
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Anonymous on Apr 9, 2021
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Overthinking is a problem and can lead to trusting problems. It is hard to just stop it and often won’t help talking about it, but it is the best option. Being honest and open with your partner release stress and will most likely hep later. Everyone overthinks sometimes and specifically in a relationship. It is caused by different things like bad history, stress etc. so telling exactly how to cope with the overthinking is hard since everyone is different. Think about what makes you feel safe and focus on that and be open with your partner because they can talk you trough it
Profile: KaiHunter
KaiHunter on Apr 18, 2021
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Communication is key. Whenever you're feeling like you are working things up to much in your head, it can help to just bring those up to your partner. By doing this, you can create an opportunity to strengthen your relationship. Try using phrases that use "I" language instead of "you" language. For example, "I am feeling a little overwhelmed right now" vs "You are making me feel overwhelmed right now". I know it's not easy, but it will make your relationship stronger in the end. And, if your partner does not respond favorably you know that it may be time to have a deeper talk about these things. Best of luck!
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Anonymous on May 6, 2021
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You can stop overthinking by having trust in your partner. If you don't have trust, you dont have anything. If you feel that you and your partner are expiereiceing problems, def talk to them about it. They should respect you and what you have to say if they truly care about you. If it is on your side, and you are overthinking them being unfaithful or something, thats another thing you should talk to them about it. Communicatino is exteremely important in a healthy relationship, on both sides. You can do this! If you are scared you are overthinking for no reason, talk to your partner!
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comfortingPeace2317 on May 10, 2021
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I think the best way to stop overthinking would be to stop and analyse the practicality of your negative thoughts. We often go down in a spiral and just keep on thinking about things that may never even happen. Its that thought and not the anticipation of it actually happening that makes us overthink even more. Just stop and think "How likely is it for ______ (insert your situation) to happen" and what would be the worst case scenario if it were to happen. You can then move on to list the best case scenario as well as the most probable scenario. Another common thing is to be over sensitive to texts from our loved ones. we often detect a change in their tone and begin to think that it is because of something we did or in some cases "they have lost interest in me". Again stop and think back, consider other possible causes behind a changed behaviour.
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whimsicalWriting9073 on Jun 3, 2021
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Know there is only so much you can do. You don't have control over everything. Sometimes it's good to let go of a relationship if the person is not reciprocating. Sometimes what you think is a big deal, isn't. Worries go into cycles of anxiety and depression. You got to give yourself some credit. I used to and sometimes still do have control issues over things that I have no control over. How someone reacts to me, what someone does. And you have to have self confidence if someone is not reacting to you, it could have nothing to do with you. You are in control of how you react to people.
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Anonymous on Jun 6, 2021
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In my opinion, the best way to stop overthinking things in a relationship is to be open and transparent in your actions and communication with your partner. As a fellow overthinker, the worst thing that happens to me is I get stuck in a loop - where I keep asking the same questions or making certain assumptions, and never make any progress because it's all just happening in my own head. And, I have to break that loop! I break the loop by asking my partner whatever question I have (it's much better than making assumptions), and it's just as important to not be dodgy or vague when I want or need something myself. Being honest, direct, and clear help to avoid misunderstandings. Avoiding misunderstandings helps me not overthink. Take care!
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Anonymous on Jun 20, 2021
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Relationships can not always run without friction between partners. Small incidents and happenings can take place over time and they are natural. I would like to ask you to understand your partner and the situation well to stop overthinking . You can best do it by putting yourself in the situatuon again and trying to understand where things went wrong and how they can be rectified. Transparency with partner and upfront decisions can make relationships stronger and more frictionless. You can at best dicuss your problems with a trained listener at 7cups if you cannot manage things alone. We are always here to help
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