How to stop overthinking things in a relationship?
Alwayshearforyou247
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Oct 7, 2020
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You need to sit down and think to yourself, what you are overthinking about. Is it your own actions towards your partner or actions your partner has towards you? Try talking to your partner and see what they have to say. If you both feel this way, you can reach out for support. Try talking to one another, as this is important in every relationship. Overthinking can be tough, but remember you can overcome it! Be patient with yourself and start by listening to your own thoughts. What are you overthinking about the most and why, are good questions to ask.
freshHoliday2552
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Nov 5, 2020
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As an overthinker myself, I like to keep in mind that not everyone thinks the way I do. People are unique, that is probably one of the reasons you are in a relationship with this person. Remember that you love this person and they are with you for a reason. However, if there has been any suspicious acts from your partner and your instincts tell you something is wrong, your love for them should definitely not blind you! Your instincts may be wrong but they are there to protect you. You can always ask your partner about the matter you find suspicious or are overthinking about, however, do not do this too much. You do not want to smother them, give them their own space to be themselves. If you feel they are still being dishonest with you, try to understand why. What are things that could cause your partner to act different? Try to connect with them, understand them, show them that you are there for them and listen. Connection and communication are the keys to any and all relationships.
SoulfulHug1101
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Nov 12, 2020
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Oh, I have definitely been here. And I still am at times. But I think what has helped me a lot is being more self-aware and figuring out what it is about the relationship I'm overthinking about and why. For example, it may be because I have a gut feeling that something's not quite right, or maybe because it's something more personal and not really anything to do with the other person. I think in this case, it's really good to see the reason behind the overthinking and try to resolve it from there and approach it with kindness and self compassion.
Empwru2
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Nov 14, 2020
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A relationship often requires trust and understanding. Take things one day at a time and enjoy the journey, that way you'll develop a deeper and more meaningful relationship with your partner. Understand the reality that like any relationship there will be times when things go up and down. This is where you can grow more trust and understanding. Think about love as an action word, it's not just affection that counts, you will reap benefits by being giving and affectionate through this journey. Becoming a better listener to your partner without interrupting will allow your partner to feel safe being open and vulnerable with you
DarkPiT23
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Nov 27, 2020
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Stop looking for hidden meanings. Sometimes “K†really just means “K.†Searching through every response looking for what it really means could be the root of your problem. ...
Talk to your partner. If insecurities are causing you to overthink your relationship, talk it out. ...
It's not always about you. ...
Find a distraction.
Overthinking can make you assume negative consequences and jump to false conclusions. This can obviously lead to arguments with your partner who might feel upset for being misunderstood almost every time. Obsessing over little things and situations can impact your mood and dent your self-esteem
Awareness is the beginning of change. ...
Don't think of what can go wrong, but what can go right. ...
Distract yourself into happiness. ...
Put things into perspective. ...
Stop waiting for perfection. ...
Change your view of fear. ...
Put a timer to work.
Pitokk
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Nov 28, 2020
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Overthinking in romantic relationships is the brain’s response to various causes, such as low self-esteem, lack of control in your dating life, or your inability to process other people’s faults. It’s not good advice and strategy to simply force yourself to be in the present moment and reject all the little things your brain is trying to tell you about your relationship. This is because overthinking is a habit you’ll have a lot of hard time eliminating without first addressing its root motivations. The motivations are usually your point of interest in shaping how things turn out and your fear of not being able to attain any arbitrary goal (standard) you may have unconsciously set at the beginning of your relationship. And so you become this obsessive thinker who uses her free time to pointlessly pay attention to insignificant actions or signs, e.g., words the guy uses, texts your boyfriend or girlfriend sends, body language, etc. and considers them important things to think about.
Research articles have determined that overthinking can be related to self-esteem or other challenges, and it may take a few weeks or months overcoming overthinking habits. However, you can determine what triggers or stresses you to overthink the most and can plan how to alternatively respond. You can ask your best friend or other supportive family members to help you.
Overthinking ends when you realize it isn’t the solution to a happy relationship; in fact, it has destroyed many couples in the past. You must fully understand that all these stories you made up about your partner is just that: made up. Like any other fantasies, they lead you further from reality and to behave irrationally. Be aware that being in a relationship is all about happiness, trust, and spontaneity, not standard, control, and order; and you’ll do just fine.
Anonymous
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Dec 16, 2020
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I used to have a problem with overthinking things in my relationship, and sometimes I catch myself still doing it. I used to question whether my boyfriend actually cared about me or whether he was settling because I was someone easy and comfortable to be with. We have to remember that relationships need to be filled with trust. To help me to remember to trust him and the relationship, I would think about how I would respond if the situation was reversed. How would I feel if he were to over think how the relationship is going or question whether I cared about him the way I worried he didn't care about me? I realized that I wouldn't like that and would want him to believe the words that I say and my actions rather than convince himself that there was something else at play. Every time I overthink something, I try to catch myself and remind myself of that.
OnlyWhenitRains
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Dec 18, 2020
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The most important thing is to talk to your partner about it. I often get worried my boyfriend will get bored of me or stop talking to me and he always reassured me that he loves me and will never do that. You just have to be honest with all of your relationship worries and talk to your partner about them and if they are the one, they will listen to you and help you feel much better! I know confrontation may be hard, but I promise the overthinking won’t be so bad once having a little talk is done!
Anonymous
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Dec 31, 2020
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I think the first take it easy. if it is meant to be then your heart will know and tell you. let things process and see how things work out. I believe that communication is the most important aspect of a relationship. Communication is also important in overthinking a relationship because both side has to communicate for a relationship to work properly and this is the same for everyone. It is critical to acknowledge what is important and what is not important in a relationship. The reason for this is that you cannot think about items that are not important.
Anonymous
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Jan 7, 2021
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A relationship is between 2 people. You should not feel alone in your thoughts and be worrying about things.
Rather than thinking about everything, why not spend some time talking with each other. Talk about the way you feel about certain things.
Spending quality time with someone is important and can help you build a stronger connection and hopefully put some of the worries to bed.
The best way to stop overthinking is to talk through the issues, talking is great for so many things and is a great release for your mental health. Bottling things inside is counterproductive.
It’s give and take so talk and listen.
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