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How to stop overthinking things in a relationship?

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Anonymous on Aug 5, 2020
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Love isn't a feeling. It's an action. You can be sad and you can be hungry, but you cannot be "love". Rather, love is something you do for another person simply because you do. Even without any measurable gain from the other person, you love them anyway. When it comes to a relationship that may result in marriage, there has to be a mutual benefit just to be sustainable. But love is the result of a desire to do the best for someone for their benefit. The danger comes when love is not reciprocated; if one person is reaping all the benefit without reciprocating, then the relationship is one-sided and not healthy.
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Anonymous on Aug 6, 2020
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I think this is a trust issue. The answer is to build trust in the relationship with each other. Both parties involved need to be on board and be able to communicate clearly and calmly to each other their trust needs, and to discover together ways in which they are willing to meet each others and their own trust needs healthily and reasonably. The more trust there is the less need to overthink. Clear and honest, and wisely delivered communication is a plus in any relationship! This can be harder in new relationships as trust takes time to build and it pays to be honest and clear from the beginning.
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mitch63 on Aug 13, 2020
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While we are not to give advice, I have found personally several avenues to ease mind chatter; artistic endeavors such as creative writing, clay modeling and drawing. I employ meditation the does not have a specific outcome but rather a gentle focus on viewing the images that pass through without becoming attached to them. I have found that utilizing breathing exercises to balance the autonomic nervous system work well. And if I can engage my body in physical activity, it allows me to re-direct my focus away from the chatter. Since I have been following these approaches fora good while, my mind chapter has noticeably lessened over time.
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Anonymous on Aug 21, 2020
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Overthinking is normal. It may be difficult to deal with, but we have to try and not allow our thoughts take over our overall well-being. In regards to a relationship, if you have any concerns, I highly recommend communicating with your partner about what is going on. Communication and understanding is key to a healthy relationship. It's important to communicate your thoughts with your partner so that they can be there for you and reassure you when needed. Your partner cannot read your mind, so it is important to let them know before your thoughts get the best of you.
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Clown964 on Aug 26, 2020
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Understand that you are not alone in a relationship. There is someone else as well and they may be going through the same thing. Take the time to talk with them and you may find a sort of relief as you connect on the things you are overthinking. Understand you are there for each other the same way we are here for you at 7 cups. It is simply a matter of perspective. If you overthink but do not verbalize then you are allowing yourself to focus on these thoughts and ponder more possibly leading to the overthinking getting worse than it was before.
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SophieWX on Aug 26, 2020
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Recognize first what past experiences are making you overthink, perhaps your trust have been betrayed before, or maybe you know people who's had this experience and you are worried because of what they've told you. Or even maybe you tend to feel anxious about close relationships in general. Another side of this is that, has your partner done anything to betray your trust? Do they act untrustworthy?Have they had a habit to do untrustworthy things in relationships before you and you've caught wind of it? Once you've identified the root of the problem, it would be much easier to figure out what to do next. Perhaps you'd like to talk about it with your partner, or maybe you would want to find someone who can be a better partner for you.
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Anonymous on Aug 28, 2020
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You have to do your best to be there for them whenever they need you so you will never regret anything at all. You have to start communicating with your partner and ask them anything that is making you think a lot about it so you will know why they act like that or why you feel the way you are feeling. You have to confront your feelings and describe your selves when you communicate so you will know the answer to all your doubts. Anyways sometimes it is hard to stop thinking so just go and ask them directly that you have this so you will feel ok
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Anonymous on Sep 6, 2020
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There are some tips to stop overthinking in a relationship. Try to distruct yourself from negative thoughts. Trust yourself. Trust your intuition. Try to communicate with your partner more often and not afraid to tell him about all of your concerns. Try to do some extra activities with your partner, it can reduce your level of anxiety too. Actually communication is a key to a healthy relationships. Be confident too. Also don't hesistate to get help from therapy. Sometimes good conversation with your close friend can help a lot. For some people doing exercises help a lot to not think about what could or would can happened.
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Anonymous on Sep 10, 2020
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Without a little bit of compelling emotions relationships fall apart. It is something we work on and grow from. Knowing that lifts off the weight of thinking about what will happen next. If we think about the future too much the joy of the present is snatched away. I'm not saying that you shouldn't think about it at all but it is very beneficial to minimise it as much as possible. It is very challenging and is often easier said than done but taking small steps will definitely help a lot. Live in the moment and do whatever you want to do because life is too short!
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Anonymous on Oct 2, 2020
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From experience, you have to find your own security and know your worth. If you are not confident in who you are and what you have to offer, you are likely to put your worth or even your emotions and well being on what someone else thinks about you. You also need to develop a trust with that person and get to the root of the issue, is there something that happened that makes you doubt their loyalty or trustworthiness? If so, how do you move past that and find healing from that situation that may have occurred causing those trust issues. Or are you speaking out of a place of insecurity?
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