How to forget my one-sided love?

Give Yourself Permission To Grieve When you are faced with an unreciprocated love, it can really hurt. You can have a hard time coming to terms with it and may be unsure of how to handle it. Firstly, it is ok to grieve. In simple terms, you have lost something. You’ve lost the idea of being in a relationship with someone and you’ve lost the possibility that your feelings would be returned. Be aware of your emotions and let yourself be sad, angry or disappointed. All of the feelings you have are valid and you need to give yourself permission to feel these emotions. Give yourself time, and know that emotions and feelings don’t disappear overnight.

I am not an expert in one sided love but I believe the first step is in acknowledging that the love is one sided and choosing to deliberately love you and work on your own personal growth. Know your why and pursue it, in the process you will be too busy focused on other things to worry about the one sided love. Go forth and pursue your goals. There is love all around you even here at 7 cups, one sided love will just take your peace of mind. Stay focused and on course. True love will find you when you least expect it.

It takes a lot more time than people realize. The first big step is realizing that it is not your fault they do not love you. This may take a lot more time that you might think, especially in the days that follow finding out it is a one-sided love. It's totally okay to take some time and really process those emotions for what they are. As hard as it is, you may need a clean and clear break with them. Trying to stay friends with your former flame at this time isn't a good idea. Instead, stregthen other friendships, do old or new hobbies, and take some quality time for yourself. It gets easier. :)

One-sided love is like when you allow someone into your life and where you show them a vulnerable side of you. There are times when you are with someone and you love him or her like someone should be loved but from a distance it could be a crush, or in a relationship too. I guess when you leave a relationship and think about one-sided things to forget you could dream up things like as when you dream you have control. As for feelings it hurts when you realize someone who meant everything to you, you meant nothing to them that hurts. Only that they lost something and never knew what they had.

If your relationship is a one sided love, your s/o does not deserve you. If you are giving the other person all your love and support, but receive nothing in return, this is toxic and unhealthy. You deserve someone who will give you all the love and more that you give to them. People who use you for your love don’t deserve you or your love you give them. Find somebody you treats you like the queen or king you are and gives you all the love in the world. Don’t forget to communicate how you feel to them so they know for the future.

remember that it's one sided thats the first thing, come to grips with that and once you understand that things will get way easier! Remember everything that has happened between your love and reburse the negative things rather than the positive and it will remind you that they aren't the best person to be around or to be in love with and once you see that forgetting them will actually come naturally. i'm so sorry that you're going through this because it must be really difficult, coming to get help is the best thing to do right now! Holly

Speaking from personal experience, I have found it most beneficial to avoid moments of boredom or inactivity. Times like that can make is very easy to think about the person and develop negative emotions. I have found it helpful to get outside, pick up hobbies, and talk to people whenever possible. The more you continue to distract yourself from that person, the easier it will get. While it is very difficult to complete forget it in a heartbeat, it can be worked on over time. Instead, use your energy to focus on yourself and seek out better for yourself.

The basic thing about one sided love is you have focused a lot more on the other person than anything else and now it is driving you crazy. Then just think about it if you have shifted your focus on something else then you might have been crazy of that other thing. So what we know now that it is just you with all your heart out focussing on things then try to make your priorities and focus on those. That will deffinitely turn your life upside down and you will achieve whatever you want in youe life .

It's a hard one isn't it, when you love someone and do things for them yet they don't return it. However know that there are people that will worship the ground you walk on. You may not know it now but there is someone that will give to you, love you, make you feel amazing and you will realise that the first love you had wasn't right. Find out what you really want, what values, what beliefs about the world, how you expect someone to be in certain situations... and find the person that fits those. The things that are most important to you. I am very lucky enough to have found someone who is incredible and gives all the time so if I could do it you can too.

As much as we might wish we could just erase our memories of an unrequited love, forgetting altogether is really only possible with time. Instead of trying to will those feelings away, which can often just make them feel even more intense, it's good to recognize the feelings you have and simply sit with them until they pass. Something that often helps me is to think about the ways an experience like that is helping me to grow and reflect on it. It can also be helpful to journal your feelings or share them with a friend (or 7 Cups listener!). Doing this can help make the feelings less painful, even if you can't forget altogether.