How to forget my one-sided love?

Sometimes we are attracted to people, because their presence in our lives speaks to a deep unconscious need. We are often attracted to the people that we are attracted to, because of the emotions they illicit within us. Awareness is a battle half won... so what I do ask you the next time you meet her, is to ask yourself 'what am I really getting out of these feelings which are being aroused in me?' For a moment, look away from the person, but more on the process that occurs inside of you towards her. It could be 'the need to chase', 'the need to prove myself', 'the need to attain the unattainable'... check what is driving you to keep being attracted to someone who is not reciprocating your energy, and perhaps once you have figured it out, the next time you see her, well... it could be different.

I don't know if forgetting is the best option. I think grieving might be a more appropriate process. It's almost impossible to "forget" intense emotions. They have a way of coming up again and again until we deal with them. I wonder how you would feel if you rather treat it as if you've lost this person in a way. Because in a way you did. You had fantasies about what things could be like and now you realise that it can't be manifested in real life. Grieving is a process when we allow ourselves to be sad about what we've lost. Maybe you'll feel like crying about it or screaming or giving yourself time to just feel bad. There are 5 stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. They don't necessarily happen in that order. They can overlap and you can go back and forth between them, but sometimes it helps to know what you are feeling is part of a normal process. You can maybe think what you would have done if the person really died and try some of those things. Ideas you could try are things like writing a goodbye letter or creating something artistic or a collage about both the good and the bad. We also have a subcommunity for Grief and Loss here on 7 Cups where you will be able to find more ideas on how to cope with the process. Or you can try the self-help guide on Grief. You can find the self-help guides under My Path in the blue bar at the top. I am sorry for your loss. I hope you will remember to take good care of yourself while dealing with this process.

Keep yourself busy. Start doing things that you've been wanting to do for a while like, starting that TV show, finish that video game or going to the gym. Surround yourself with people that can support you. Be open with what you need like a hug, going on a walk with someone or you want to spend the night at their place because you don't want to be by yourself. Understand that you're not alone. There are people out there that have experience what you are going through. There are many online forums that you can reach out for support. Time will heal you.

To forget my one sided love, I had to learn to love myself. I know that is very cliche, but its what I had to do. As a woman I had to learn that I needed and deserved to be respected by my significant other. That was not happening. It was crucial for me to get myself to a better place and so I sought out the support of my closest friends and they helped me. At times I just cried and cried and I felt so alone. So so alone, but as it really taught me a life lesson. That lesson being that I needed to come first for once.

While it’s easier said than done, find a hobby or get busy. Distract yourself with fun things and go on dates with other people. Before you can grab something new, you need to let go of what was in your hand previously right? Allow yourself to be ready, willing and open to potentially meeting someone else that makes you feel the same way the initial person made you feel. There are billions of people on this planet with all sorts of quirks. You will definitely find one you like if you allow it to happen. Go out there and have fun!

Work on yourself! Try re-arranging your room, transform your life and focus on you. You could pick up a new hobby, start watching the sunset, exercise, in other words, get your life together! You can get where you want to be through hard work, you're the only person you can control, so go live your life to it's fullest! Delete old messages if you have to, avoid saying negative things about the person you once loved and keep the hope that one day you'll meet the person meant for you, if not that's ok, society pressures us into relationships when really, though they are wonderful, they're not necessaary to be happy or fulfilled.

In my life too,my first love was one-sided but i crazily and madly loved her so much but it was just nothing from her side,she was everything to me,my whole world,we were never even talked much,it was a strict one-sided affair,i feel wrong that i fell for her and that had changed me alot too..so much so that i was no longer a trustable and not even a trusting person and that keeps me out for searching for a potential soulmate for next 9 years and in all those years. So not possible to forget because it becomes a memory which can't be erased at all but that person too is not worthy of your love too.The person has missed someone very precious in their life which is someone who love them and you were capable of loving so that was awesome too.

One-sided love is psychologically damaging. It hits you in ways that you would feel less about yourself or to such extent, hate yourself. It is quite a process and a battle to be fought for each day. And this is how I fought for it. This is how I fought for life. I spent time thinking, realizing that we only have a short life. People and some research would say that the life span of the people today would be about 70+ years old. It makes me realize how much I should value my life. How much should I make use of it in a more meaningful way. I've had an epiphany that I should spend my time that should be nurturing for my soul and supports my personal growth. I should attach myself on activities, relationships and thoughts that are good for my mental health. In this way when the time comes that I knew my life would end or could end tomorrow-I knew I've lived a life worth living.

Hello; I'm frostwire and I'm unsure what your question is asking. But, I will answer it with the best hopes that your question is answered; because Love can be strange rite? I've heard that some that find it usually grow to be very old an gain access to elderly ways that can provide for those that are in their younger an flowering years. If you are still with me; is this love you feel for the person a ride to exstacy? If pleasure is what keeps a person craving for the individual thing that keeps them in a loop, then; should we replace them with something that can create a new and better us? I mean: if the love is one-sided; what makes it one-sided? Sometimes we have to choose what is better for us even when we are or find ourselves in a comfortable position rite? Getting our bodies in line to chase our destiny can be the most difficult thing to do. But how can we do this? Is this thing that we call our destiny accomplishable? How and where do we begin? If you could hang up a dart board an throw darts at the number you wished you never called, would it make you feel better that you darted it? The one thing we should not do is give up on ourselves. We deserve to be happy; because happiness is necessary.

Getting over someone starts with the love you have for yourself, the more you focus on your own personal self-love journey the less you will focus on the person who rejected you, an unrequited love or just an ignored crush. There's a difference between acting like you're focusing on yourself to look good in other peoples (your ex or anyone else') eyes, and following your own path, the feeling is unexplainable however you almost forget about them but appreciate the memories and how they have shaped who you are! And you won't even realise it happens, its almost like how you don't realise when you fall asleep!