How do you respond to your parents when they tell you to calm down and you can't?

Just straight up tell them that I can't calm down. That's the most easiest way.If you're having a panic or an anxiety attack, tell them that as well.

Tell them I need to walk or need a minute to myself. And hopefully they respect that and understand that you need a minute to yourself

It's difficult to have someone try to control my emotions for me. In fact, I've learned when people tell me to "calm down," they might be referring to their perception of my actions. Instead of focusing on "calm down" phrase as a demand, I take a moment to evaluate what I might be doing to make that person say "calm down." If I'm truly calm and they are being critical of me, I draw a strong boundary where they are concerned and limit my interactions and responses on an as-needed basis only.

If you feel unable to calm down it may be best to take a minute to yourself after calming down on your own apologise to your parents.

The best thing to know is not every single thing needs a reaction. Yes, it is hard to resist responding, but is it really worth it?

Take a breather on your own and go off to think if it's an anger situation. Going off to think instead of escalating the situation can do a lot more than trying to pursue the situation at its current.

At a time you are calm, have a talk with them about when you aren't calm what you need. Explain to them that being told to calm doesn't actually calm you down. But be prepared to give them something that does calm you down. Maybe you need some time to yourself, maybe you need a hug, maybe you need to listen to music . Explain what you need to do to calm yourself down and ask them to respect that.

Respond in a respectful, but very firm way. Tell them that they’re misunderstanding you (chances are, they are) and then begin to explain yourself.