How do I stop thinking about someone I'm obsessing over?

My suggestion, from the bottom of my heart: FIND AS MANY HOBBIES AS YOU CAN FIND!!!!!! There is no need to be obsessing over somebody, whom, odds are, you don't occupy any space in their mind. No need whatsoever. If you're having trouble letting go of this person, and constantly feel the need to keep track of them, what they're up to, finding whatever information you can, I suggest some deep personal reflection. Then do something productive with yourself. Exercise, take up knitting, go for a walk....go for another walk. Talk to people in your life that you care about, and care for you. Bury yourself in work, or the best thing of all which ties everything together: obsess over YOURSELF. Take care of yourself! Treat yourself! Don't let this person live in your mind rent-free. Ask yourself: How is this positive, that I am obsessed with this person? How does it validate me, when I find something out about them?" The answer is that it's not positive, and it doesn't validate you.. You validate you. Become obsessed with yourself, be selfish, do things for you and you only, and you will see amazing improvements. If you're unsure where to start, talking to a therapist, or a professional who can assist in cognitive behavioural therapy, is a great way to get you started and get on your feet. I'll say it one last time because I want it to stick: OBSESS OVER YOURSELF!

I know this sounds biast, but think about their flaws. Maybe there was something in general you didn't like about the person, looks or personality. It will help you think more of "Why was I obsessing over this person?" It really does help, from personal experience. It may sound mean, but if your trying to stop thinking about them, it's really the only way.

Don't try to stop thinking about the person at all. The more you try, the more likely you are of failing to. Imagine me telling you not to think of a giant green, blue polka-dot giraffe; what are you thinking of now? Hehe... I say, think about the person, and think of other things and people, too. Let the thoughts flow and turn them constructive. Eventually, going about your business like it's nothing to worry about will actually make it something to not worry about. : ) Sincerely, I hope that helps.

I went through this...hard. I realize what I was obsessing over wasn't even real. We were both single parents and he had filled me with promises of our future together. We would buy a big house for the kids, join incomes, have a long faithful marriage. All the things I wanted. In retrospect those were the things I was obsessing over losing. In actuality we ended up together for years living separate with him never fully committing and those promises and dreams never acted on. He knew what to say to keep me hoping. When I focused on reality, his cheating, non commitment and false promises it helped. Sometimes it's not the person you've been obsessed with but the ideals and beliefs you had surrounding the person. If you're obsessing they probably aren't coming true and you might not be fulfilled and it might not have ever been .. reality.

A good way to get someone out of your head is by hanging out with others and meeting new people. By doing this, you are filling the void that this other person has left by you not being able to be with them.

If you're obsessing over someone and don't want to be then ask yourself, "what do I want" and go for it. And keep pushing for it. And if you're asking, "what good would that do?" let me tell you, you'll begin to think about what you want, then how to get it, and after once you've got it, all you've got to do is keep at it. And that person you're obsessing over might not be the number one thought. But in order to achieve this, you've gotta really want it. Because if you don't, then you'll continue to be in your situation.

Try to look at it realistically. Write down all your obsessions and figure out and realize how many are really untrue and exaggerated. Try to think what they're really like and try to think what the situation really is. Work on eliminating that feeling and getting rid of the thoughts that cause the obsession. Change your way of thinking about it.

I feel you, it's hard to get that person out of your mind. I find reading really helps when your thinking about "that person"

To stop thinking about someone you've been obsessing over, I would say: remove all photos, messages, and most importantly- GOOD and BAD memories. Surf the Internet, read, take walks. Just settle down.

It might not be a bad think to be obsessing over someone but if it is bothering you, then try to do other things to keep you busy and to get that person out of your mind. Be with friends, read a book, go dance! Do anything that makes you feel better or that takes your mind off that person :)