How do I know if I did the right thing?
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Updated: May 25, 2022
Anonymous
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May 6, 2020
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To know if you did the right thing or not, your reaction will tell inside you. No one is a bad person. If you know, you will know; you can feel it. Now, to really tell if you have done the right thing, the most powerful proof is the peoples reactions. Whether it is the facial expression, tone, or even emojis on text. Doing something good for others and yourself is always a huge impact and no matter what, it will affect many in a favorable way. Now its not always completely easy for everyone, but by taking small steps from covering your mouth, to even cheering up someone, it leads to a huge accomplishment! Furthermore, as i said its not always easy, it may not always be what people want to do either, but by going beyond what you think you can't do or want to do, doing the right thing leads a pathway to happiness and at the end, you will see the progress you have made.
CarlAmber
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May 20, 2020
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I am not sure if we can ever really know if we did the right thing. I guess the main way that you will know if you did the right thing is if it the outcome was aligned with your core values and beliefs . If you felt that you remained true to yourself and your core, this is very important. Also I believe that if the outcome was beneficial to those around you, is also a good indication. I think it’s really a feeling that may indicate to yourself whether you have done the right thing or not. It is very subjective.
Keepyourmindcalm
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May 23, 2020
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Well... this is a really difficult question to answer due to the complexity and vagueness of the two notions -right and wrong. I'm afraid that no one can define these two concepts. However, from personal experience, I would advise you to think about what you did and what you could have done differently. If what you did was the best thing you could do, given the circumstances, you answered your question. If you could have done something differently, attempt to "fix" it and try to avoid doing it again. AND REMEMBER, we cannot always be right. Take care and be yourself.
Kind regards,
Keepyourmindcalm
HippieLexi
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May 28, 2020
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If you did the right thing, you will feel content with your decision. When you don't do the right thing, you might feel shame, guilt, or remorse. Doing the right thing is subjective. It's based on your morals. Did it benefit you? Did it benefit somebody else? Were you helping yourself or another person? In a non-selfish way? Do you feel good about yourself after you did it? Would you feel comfortable if your grandmother knew what you did? Do you think she would approve of this decision? if you answered yes to these questions, then congratulations! You most likely did the right thing! But if not, its not too late to turn it around and apologize and do the right thing going forward. Hope this helped!
soothingBreeze49
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May 30, 2020
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Sometimes I feel I can’t know for sure if I did the right thing or the absolute opposite unless I go to the future or something like that, but sometimes you can actually know. Your gut feeling is more accurate than we think. When we are anxious about something and then we did something to ease this feeling, right away you will feel if you did the right thing or not. Are you feeling relieved? Or like a huge burden has been lift from your shoulders? Do you feel like you can now focus on something else because this has been dealt with? All of these show that you did the right thing.
raymaniii
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Jun 5, 2020
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It is sometimes hard to do the right thing....and second guessing ourselves is human nature. However, if you truly act with your best interest at heart keeping in mind the best interest of others as best you know how second...then I believe it is a pretty sure bet that you did the right thing. If in hindsight you find that it wasn't the best possible choice, then so be it. Clean up what you can of any damage that may have been done and then FORGIVE YOURSELF, because everyone makes mistakes. Lastly, no matter what...if you did the absolute best you could with your given situation....let it go, sleep well and know that you learned something important that will help you do better tomorrow.
CelloandMellow
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Jun 5, 2020
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Often, a situation has many different answers, and we are unsure if we did do the right thing or not. In truth, there is no one right thing. Many factors play into our decision making when we are faced with a difficult situation. Our own interests, the concerns of others, and circumstances out of our control can weigh heavily on our final decision. In the end, we will always make the choice that feels right. Whether it's right or not is the question that is most commonly asked when it shouldn't be - the more relevant question is whether or not you made the choice that you are going to be most happy with, and whether or not you made the choice with the best intentions.
Anonymous
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Jun 10, 2020
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If you feel in your heart that you have done the best you can. You know yourself best, and if you know in your heart of hearts that you used all available information, took care not to harm yourself or others, and explored every possibility, then you must have done the right thing. Also, remember that nothing is unforgivable. There is always an opportunity to learn and grow, especially if a mistake has been made. If you do your best to change any negative behaviours, no one will be able to judge you for them. Stay confident in yourself!
brightSnow33
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Jun 19, 2020
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Knowing if you are doing the right thing can be hard if there is more than one option available. My approach is to break big life decisions down into smaller pieces to make them more controllable. Usually, from these smaller pieces, I get a good internal feeling on the way forward. Also, deciding to trust myself knowing what is best is an active choice, and listening to my gut feeling before and after the decision helps me to prepare and re-confirm. The voices never differ for me, and it is a good feeling of confirmation from myself to myself when checking in after a decision has been made!
Anonymous
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Jun 27, 2020
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Ask your heart. Human beings are full of emotions. When you do the right thing, you feel good about it. If not, you will get anxious about it. The only exception is when you have the habit of being too harsh on yourself, the anxiousness may be something else that needs to resolved. For example, you have a poor die. Eating too much junk food makes you sick. So you decided to cut off the habit by preparing healthy meals for yourself. There will be quite some extra work to deal with regarding meal prep. You stick with the plan for a short period of time. Then you want to give up. Is it right to give up? You think about how great you feel after you switched to a healthier meal plan. The great feeling in your guts lets you know all tedious prep work is worthy.
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