How do I get over feeling that everyone is going to leave me?

I know when I feel this way I go to people who have always been there for me. I also will tell them that I feel this way, sometimes a little confirmation from someone who is close to me is all I need to remind me that I have someone to go to.

The only want to get over this is to learn to love who you are. A feeling that everyone will leave you is born from a feeling that we don't like who we are. So work on your relationship with yourself. Learn to like who you are, explore what it is you like about yourself, search within to see how you feel about yourself and work on self love. Once you can be your own hero, once you can be your own best friend, once you can be the person who is going to stand up for you and support you, then the fear of people leaving doesn't feel so bad, because you know that whatever happens you can rely on you. But the best thing is once you start to love and care for yourself, then you generally make better choices and don't allow people into your life that will make you feel insecure.

Think that everyone will stay, you're loved, keep the positive thoughts coming, fear is a liar

There are people who love and support you. Talk to the people who you love, and express your thoughts and feelings.

The feeling of loneliness is a scary feeling. No one wants to be alone. But truth is you are never alone! You have friends, family, and well... 7 Cups! If you do ever feel lonely come and let out your struggles. Because I am here to listen no matter what. Even if everyone else you have ever known leaves you, I will still be by your side! Because when felling lonely or left behind, all you really need, is a friend!! 😄

Life can real tough sometimes and honestly we need one another to battle out the tough phases. Having said that, I just like to remind myself one thing, I came alone and I would have to leave alone as well, if someone is joining my path, it is great but if they have to leave something better is in store for me and which is why they are making room...having company is great but learning how to be happy with just yourself is an important life lesson, just trust your instincts and hardwork and one day you shall surpass your own expectations

I believe that, whoever talks to you and keep hanging around you and is still present in your life. Want you in their life. Instead of worrying about when will they leave you try to deepen the connection! And to value the time with the right supportive people :D we always meet new people at the least expected areas of our lives. And if we keep worrying about those who will leave and those who are leaving then we will never find new ones because we are only looking at the past or the future while we should live the present!

Personally, I have struggled with this also. It makes sense to fear being left--relationships are uncertain and we cannot tell the future, which can be incredibly stressful. While I cannot always let the feeling go, one thing that has helped significantly is remembering that it is okay to be flawed, and that I am still worthy of loving relationships even with my flaws. In addition, it can help to remember that we can become comfortable with the uncomfortable. In other words, we can radically accept the uncertainty of the future and make the best that we can of living in the present moment. Life is still worth living even though we cannot predict the behavior of another person.

Noticing the difference between a feeling and reality can be tricky, and often times our brain crosses these over and makes them a fact in our minds. In psychology terms this is called catastrophising. We all do it from time to time, where we think the worst of a situation that hasn't even occurred. Sometimes practising mindfulness can lower levels of anxiety when we catastrophise the future. When the thought occurs, you can observe it for what it is- just a thought that is in your mind. Another way is to challenge these thoughts, much like having a debate with yourself in your mind. Ask yourself 'what evidence is there that everyone is going to leave me?' for example. And then ask yourself the opposite 'what evidence is there that nobody is going to leave me?' in reality nothing is black and white, so it's unlikely the thoughts you are having are true.

People who have suffered from abandonment issues and neglect usually always have this feeling and thought process locked in that everyone is going to leave out of fear. Anxiety kicks in and we start to have those feelings of fright. I believe the younger a person has been that has encountered abandonment and neglect in life, the worse it is for them. They are easily frightened and very fearful. Not having family, friends, make for a worse feeling of fear and a not so wanted outcome. It is additionally important to have people like Doctors, psychiatrists, therapists, counselors, also reserved because they are there to help in such situations and are there to be sought out for help. Finding support groups can help. It isn't easy to feel like you are going to be alone. It's hard to accept and no one really want to be alone or be abandoned. Going through most hardships in life alone is a hard thing to deal with and very troublesome. Surround yourself with loved one, surround yourself with friends. Do things that bring you joy and happiness and laughter, even if it's the littlest things in life that most people might not even want to do. Finding a balance and peace within yourself helps those feelings kind of dissipate a bit so you can have enough room to bring out the joy in yourself and express yourself how you should to attract what you need in life. Church is also there for a reason. Church members are always doing things to help one another. You'd be surprised at the kind people you could find at church that are so willing to be there for you and extend that olive branch that some of us feel when we are out alone by ourselves and frightened. I hope you can find peace with your situation and know you are not alone, and 7 cups is full of communities that you can explore and find some of the right people even if they're friends you can relate to.