How can I talk to people normally?

The first thing I would ask here is - What is normal? A lot of people have this idea regarding normal but what really is normal? I don't think any of us would be able to fit in that bracket! The media and other people make us believe we have to all be the same to "fit in" which is not true. The way you speak to people will be normal, this is normal for you and the type of person that you are. You need to have some confidence in yourself to then be able to feel good about speaking to other people.

Talking to other people is intimidating at first, but gets easier. As someone who has social anxiety, this is especially intimidating. I have found that starting a conversation with a compliment automatically improves the overall tone of a conversation and increases the chances of the conversation flowing naturally. Step two: Ask the other person open-ended positive questions about themselves, maybe a career choice, or why they moved to a certain place. It helps you learn a lot about them and is the "discovery" part of any conversation. Plus, if you have anything in common feel free to open up to them as well! Good Luck:)

Relax and be yourself. Talking come naturally when we allow ourselves to be naturally ourselves. I know it can be super hard to be ourselves when we are trying to be the best we can be for others. However, often being genuine is what is going to help people the most. We all want someone who genuinely wants to listen and talk to us through our problems. Likely, if you are here to help, you are the type of person who genuinely wants to listen and help people through their problems. So, shake off the nerves and allow yourself to tap into who you truly are. The normality will come naturally.

You will have to define what do you mean by normally. Or at least what normally means for people you normally want to communicate with. In my opinion there's no normal way that people communicate. There are so many types people can talk, but I have found no one talk "normally". Nevertheless, to answer your question, find the purpose of your need to talk to people normally. Is it work, to make friends, or whatever it is. Secondly, practice as much as possible, talk to as many people as possible. There's literally no other way. If you run out of common phrases to use then by all means do your research and collate a bunch of phrases for you to use. And just do your thing. See what's talking to people, normally like for you. Best of luck!

When I was much younger, I felt I had this problem. I couldn't start a conversation, or maintain it. I tried to copy "cool people", and I felt like I was a fake. Then I chose to "talk" with writing, actually I was better than talking, and still I am. Writing helps. But then I got to know the deeper layer of my problem. I couldn't communicate with myself clearly. So I start writing my personal reflections on things happening within me. I came to know that I was trying hard to gain people validation that I forgot I need to validate myself first. Then I know whether some conversation is worth it or not. So I don't try so hard anymore. I just choose which talk will help me or others. Aside from that, I wouldn't sweat too much.

asking about someone's day and just listening as a start is always good. Once you have built a rapport with the person, you will find the conversation will flow normally. Showing a genuine interest in what people are talking about and finding common interests will help. Although, finding someone with differing interests makes for a learning experience and can help the conversation flow by asking questions and sharing your thoughts. It takes time. The first couple of conversations can be stunted and will take work and effort. Just like here on 7-cups. listening is a great start