How can I talk to people normally?

"normal" is quite a normative defenition. I assume you mean "confidently". Confidence is complicated to build, and it is also important not to be overconfident, because people don't tend to like people who think more of themselves than they are actually are. I feel more confident when talking to others if I am really proficient at the topic we are discussing, or if I have experience/seniority. I don't have to fear of making mistakes or embarassing myself. When you are confident in your abilities it makes things much easier. Sometimes accomplishments can help us feel more confident. It is also important to differentiate between confidence and self esteem, because you may have one but not the other.

To start a conversation say hi and ask how they’re doing and all of that, try to relax and be calm and keep it at the back of your head that no one’s gonna bite you. If you’re the shy type try to make eye contacts but not so much so that you don’t loose your words, try and also smile to lighten up the conversation. If it’s a text it’s better cos you don’t have to see the person’s facial expression, bottom line is just be free and be yourself and try to enjoy the conversation and try not to be rude.

"Normal" is so subjective it shouldn't exist as a term. When talking to people for the first time especially, I find it easiest to start by asking other people the questions and get them talking. Chiming in with my own experience where it makes sense, and finding common ground such as shared interests and experiences. Try not to worry too much about what is "normal", just be yourself and try to respect other people's physical and social boundaries. You can also always politely excuse yourself as the conversations comes to an end and try again later, or with someone else. Sometimes I try to have a conversation and it just flops, fails completely. Doesn't make me a failure! I just try again when I am ready.

There is no "normal" way to talk to people, you are doing your best regardless of how you are talking to people. But if talking to people without panicking is something that you struggle with, checking the facts around whether or not they would hurt you or if they would judge you, and if they would not then just trying to remind yourself of that! Regardless, you are doing amazing and I am so so proud of you for trying to beat whatever your struggle is, you got this and you are super brave and strong for living this life.

I have a friend that gets anxious about talking to people and big crowds. Its easier for some people to do the talking and other to be talked to. The easiest way to walk up and talk to someone is to simply do it. I would practice at busy place like Walmart or target(wait until social distancing is over) and just walk up and talk to people. Another easy way for me to walk to someone and talk is pretend I am the CEO of a new company and pretend you're looking for workers. Your approach will be more confident but you have to play the part per se.

You may be suffering from social anxiety. You probably already know the answer but are reluctant to do it. You can continuously do it and simply get better at it. It's true what they say about practice making it perfect. :) The best thing you can do for yourself is believing in yourself. Taking baby steps is great - you don't have to jump in it right away. Take your time to get comfortable with others and expand from your comfort zone. Something you can do to help you ease out of discomfort is observing others before you try to socialize 'normally'. It decreases the likelihood of saying something out of the ordinary. Also, make sure to take care of yourself so that you are not anxious - which means eating right and sleeping enough.

A quick guide: 1. Recognize that you are trying to get to know people: that's a really important aspect of this! You care and therefore, you share (information about yourself so that you can foster healthy relationships) ;) 2. Greet them, say your name and ask theirs. It shows you have interest and is just expected. If you knew this person earlier, then ask how their day is going. 3. This is the hard part: ask questions. If they told you their day was bad, ask why. Good, ask why. Ask questions. 3a. Say they mention that they read a book. What book was it? Do you like it? If not, what other hobbies do you like? 4. Essentially, use questions to act as a bridge for another part of the conversation. 5. They'll eventually ask you questions, unless they're rather self-absorbed. Answer it as you would normally; they might seem uncomfortable but most do. The ones that truly are will let you know. That's all I got. If there's any questions, feel free to ask. Thank you for reading! -Khan

Based on my personal experience many people view "normal" conversation differently. I'd say having a positive outlook and expressing ideas in a way thats true to you can allow for a positive conversation. Remember that it takes more than one person to have a conversation so do not put to much pressure on yourself! Stay engaged, ask questions, and try to get the other person to share their thoughts to keep the conversation going. You are capable of great thing and when talking to people it is important to remember to not put too much pressure on yourself! Good luck

How do we define “normal”? We are all different and unique in our own way and what is normal to one person may be different to another person’s definition of normal. It is our own individual normalities that make us all amazingly different in this world! If you try too hard to talk in a way that conforms to someone else’s “normal” then you are at risk of losing your true self in conversation. Be your own normal as that is the only normal we truly know inside out and the only normal that is important in your own life!

treat them like you would talk to a friend! :D care like you would for a friend; be casual, chill like a chit chat :D Be ok even if it don't go well; you don't always get along with everyone anyway! try talking to them about topics that interest them like their hobbies, what makes them happy.. :D ask them how they are.. what makes them feel that way.. share something about yourself so others can open up too and trust you. take time to know each other. no pressure in the first conversation as relationships take time to build up!