How can I talk to people normally?

Those who have this worry (like myself) often are very introspective and socially anxious, constantly concerned about what they need to say, do etc to fill up the conversation - which overwhelms them. But this is lessened when you acknowledge that a conversation occurs between two or more people - and that you do not have to fill up this time and put in your efforts alone. Furthermore, during your introspection you may worry about what about you and your life you could possibly talk about, and find it difficult to personally identify your interests and knowledgeable areas due to a lack of confidence. However, if you first ask the other person what they're interested in or about their knowledge on something then you are giving them an opportunity to discuss something they're interested in, and often through listing to what they're passionate about will remind you what your interests are. This is also good as it makes the other person feel listened to.

Each and every person has a comfort zone when talking to someone and when someone talks to them. Do what you feel to be natural. There is no such thing as "normal." Normal is a preconceived notion built within yourself. Be yourself and go for it. There will always be a sense of awkwardness. As you continue to talk to those around you it will become easier. While it may become easier, it will never be easy. Don't be afraid of who you are. Have confidence in yourself and your intelligence. You judge yourself harsher than anyone else will judge you. Have fun! Go for it!

It would probably depend on the word normal in this context, but if you feel abnormal when talking to someone in the sense that you don't feel like you're connecting with that person, it helps to listen more than talk. This allows you to not only catch a mental break from always being the one leading a conversation, but helps in understanding the other person and what they value and care about, even if its the smallest things. In any case of not talking to people "normally" though, reflecting on what you're doing and what kind of person you're talking to can go a long way in figuring out what is so abnormal about the interaction.

Do not worry about how you think you are coming across. Listen and treat the other person as you would wish to be treated. Most people are not judging you as hard as you are yourself. Do not worry too much about the outcome of the conversation. Just be yourself. It sounds like a cliche, but it works. If you have a lack of self confidence, it may help to take the focus off yourself and put it on the other person. This will make you a great listener as well. Also share appropriately, not to little or too much. Practice also helps. Conversation is an art.

To talk to people ”normally, ” you have to be confident in yourself. People are likely to listen to someone who is comfortable to talk to, confident, and natural. Don't try to be someone you aren’t and stick to topics you know best. If you don't know something, don't be afraid to admitt that. After all you have to be yourself to be ”normal.”

Find people who, while not necessarily share the same interest, are interest in what you say and won’t judge you if you get anxious/misspeak. Especially if you have social anxiety, this can be tricky but know that there are many people who face similar or the same issues who are also looking for people they can talk to normally. It’s also good to talk to strangers in your work/school, most people are friendly and also want to meet knew people! It is mostly an issue of nerves and anxiety, but once you can fully understand that people won’t jusge you for being anxious, and those who do usually aren’t with your time

Just relax and be yourself. Take a breath and say to yourself 'I can do this'. Smile and make eye contact to show you are interested in the other person. I find what works best for me when I meet someone for the first time is to ask them questions so I can get to know them and engage with them. This helps me relax as the focus is more on them than on me. The conversation just seems to flow from there. Remember that many people find it hard to talk to people normally in unfamiliar situations. If you are unsure about what questions to ask, start by talking about a topic that is in the news or popular.

The short answer would be: you can’t. But bare with me. What’s so special about having conversations with others? We get to learn about who they are, what they’re like; their personality stands out and even that itself gives us a certain feeling, an impression, that we only get when we’re around that person and therefore associate it with them. Isn’t that a cool thing? But you know what makes it work that way? Not blending in with what’s expected of us when it comes to regular conversation, not stressing out about whether we’re saying something that fits the little bubble of “normal”. Being you, having YOUR way of talking to people is what makes them find you interesting, remember you and want to talk to you more. Don’t worry about what’s expected of you, just have your own way, even if a completely unconventional one, of expressing yourself.

Just by listening and learning more about them. Probably notice the way they talk and see where that goes on. It also depends on what’s their mood we have to respect and try to understand why they are feeling that way. Me personally I’ve always been a better listener then a talker you can learn so much from just listening you start to earn people’s trust and it’s incredible as you start to see their walls go down and they feel comfort in knowing you’re there for them and that someone is actually listening and not bothered to hear about their day as some people might think

Being a physician, I have to do a lot of speaking to people. For the longest time I was a nervous wreck.. especially with bad news. I think the best thing you can do right now is simply continue to practice speaking with some people you are comfortable with. Be it your parents, siblings, friends, and then move on to the more challenging people, say the barista at Starbucks, or the cute guy walking down the street. The only way to get better at something is to practice practice practice. You don't want to know how many grapes/bananas I had to stitch up before I was allowed near a patient. :) Have a wonderful day