How can I take care of myself without feeling selfish?

Balance your amount of feelings for yourself and others, this is the only way you won't be considered selfish

You can Remeber that you should be a high priority in your own life. You can't be fully okay if you don't take time and listen to yourself and what you need. Being selfish isn't bad when it comes to how we re treating ourselves

Taking care of yourself isn't selfish! Telling others your limit(s), not wanting to hangout because you don't feel okay, want to be alone, and telling others what you can handle or not is NOT selfish at all! It's important for us to tell others about us because it'll help them to understand why we act certain ways. Being selfish is more like forcing people to do what you want because you just feel like it. You don't care about how others feel or being ignorant. Taking care of your self isn't selfish, as long as you know where to draw the line between being selfish and self-care. I hope you well!

I always think of it as you can't pour water from an empty glass. Likewise, you can't ensure quality care towards others if you yourself are not in healthy condition. Healthy boundaries are definitely needed so that is helps guard you against people that may try to overstep the boundaries and make you feel selfish for caring about yourself. Such boundaries can be established by being consistent with an act. For example, you can set your phone to not receive any notifications past 8pm so that you can have some time to yourself or have an early night- and by doing so consistently, others learn that if they were to contact you past 8pm that they won't be tended to, and therefore learn to respect your space and boundaries.

Loving yourself is very important just as you love someone else. And we at times feel so exhaustive of dealing with our closed ones. And in those times, we need to take care of ourselves. our mind and body needs rest. At the same time, it is important to communicate the same to others who are around us. And we need to prioritise the time for self care. When our closed one needs us, we need to be there with them and at times it is not possible and in those times, it is relevant that you share how you feel about being in that situation.

I used to struggle with this a lot growing up, so I understand it is difficult to treat yourself with kindness without feeling this way. To overcome this, recognize that if you are not in a mentally stable and healthy state, you will not be able to help others and support those you love to your greatest potential. Accept that it is okay for you to treat yourself with kindness, and if there are other people feeding into the mentality that you are being selfish by putting your needs first, then they do not have your best interests in mind. There is a difference between self-care (treating yourself with kindness without the intention of putting others down or depleting others of their joy) vs being selfish (having the intention of putting others down or depleting others of joy).