How can I stop distrusting my partners?

The way that I did it was 1: I had to stop comparing my partners to previous ones who made bad choices. Not everyone is the same and not everyone will try to hurt you. 2: Be comfortable enough with myself and know that if someone makes that choice to hurt me, it says nothing about who I am, it just says what bad character that person has. 3: if anyone was to cheat or lie to mean, that is their loss. Because I do not put up with that kind of behavior because I do not behave that way to others. Respect yourself enough to know when you are not being respected back, but you do not have to automatically assume they will try to hurt you before you get to know them. You know the red flags to look for, and if you are aware enough of yourself to know when someone is happening that you dont like, you dont have to stay. This is what I learned through all of my bad relationships, and my journey of self growth. It definitely took the fear of getting hurt away and made me more open to new people. Then I was aware of weeding out toxic people from good people.

The first step in trusting another person, as cliche` as it may be, is trusting yourself. You have to trust your own instincts about people and about situations, and with that comes the ability to trust if another person is being honest or not. Working on trusting your instincts can be done with or without a partner, and through verbal and non-verbal manners.

Grow yourself personally first before entering a relationship though personal development. Anything to enhance your awareness and self identity is very important. Develop new talents, and skills, to realize your dreams, aspirations, and your core values as a human being. But remember, this is a lifelong process and results take time.