How can I convince myself that my friends don't hate me? I have this irrational fear that they actually hate me.

I’ve found that when I feel like this, I tend to pull away. So what I need to do is chat with my friends and engage regularly. I also sometimes need to go out of my comfort zone and push a bit more for interaction, such as messaging a couple of times or trying to meet up again. Or even talking to them and asking them to contact, or scheduling a time to catch up. I think it’s okay also to push away friends who you don’t get along with as well. But I do find that even though I find it scary to reconnect it’s often alright and people are happy that you did.

Perhaps try sitting your friends down, and having a slow and contained conversation with them. express your feelings in the best way you can, explain your fears and worries, and explain how they make you feel and affect your day-to-day life. After you’ve expressed those fears and emotions, perhaps try asking for reassurance, and ask if they can do more activities with you, or text you more. engage more with them and increase the bond, it may reduce the anxiety. Some days may feel worse than others, and the fears will convince you everybody hates you, but I assure you that it’s wrong. My best advice would be laying it all out for them to better understand, and ask for help. Be safe!

Ughh tell me about it! I have this problem too!! I think you need to ask yourself a few questions to help you understand your feelings. For example, "why do I think my friends hate me?" "what did I do to make them feel hate towards me?" "if they hated me for real, how would they act? Is it the same as what's been going on before?" Also asking yourself, where did this irradiation fear come from. If it was from some traumatizing experience in your past, maybe you should see a counselor about it to help you more or ask someone you trust. Talking really helps, so do that

Sometimes it may feel like your friends hate you based on how they act around you. But you just have to take a step back and look around and notice how fortunate you are to have such amazing people around you! Your friends are there for you though sometimes it doesn’t feel like it. And if you ever do feel like your friends HATE you hate you, talk to them and tell them who you’re feeling! Your friends will be king and understand how you feel and listen. But if they aren’t truly your friends they’ll do the opposite.

You know its irrational. There isn't an easy fix I know of, but I can tell you that you know its irrational. As in, the thought is not true. You will be okay. Do whatever helps relax you, and understand the thought won't destroy you. As I need more words, have some mantra-reading below: You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You'll be okay, I promise.

In my experience it is best to think about what things your friends said and their actions that make you feel as though they hate you. After getting everything in perspective, try to think about the other reasons they might have done this, what they might have meant, or what they might not have realized they had done. Sometimes my friends seem to not include me in things, but I realize that I never told them how I felt. After talking with them, it became clear they didn't realize how they were making me feel and things improved. Sometimes we need to give them that chance, because they aren't in our heads and what may seem obvious to us is not so obvious to them. You've got to give a little trust to truly understand how much they give you, these people are your friends, give them a chance to tell you how they really feel.

I've felt this way countless times. Some of my friends even spread rumors behind my back and I used to get paranoid that my friends secretly hated me. However, I think as you mature, you come to realize that friends who make you feel unloved or unworthy really shouldn't be considered your friends. I no longer associate myself with my friend group from last year. Instead, I found a few friends that bring me up rather than tear me down. I'm much happier now, and I think you will feel the same way once you find some other people to bond with. In terms of getting over the irrational fear, don't worry about what your friends might be thinking! When I heard that one of my friends thought I was "boring," I immediately became self-conscious about my personality. Just be confident in yourself. Even if you don't feel confident, act confident and others will be automatically attracted to you.

If you are feeling like your friends hate you it is important to look at what makes them love you, and what you love about yourself. Hate is a very strong emotion and I know your friends don't hate you, so talk to them about your feelings. Tell them this and if they are your real friends they will understand and support you. Ask them what they love about you. And ask yourself do I deserve to be hated, truth is no one deserves to be hated, you are strong, intelligent, and empowered. This fear does not define you, don't let it define your friendships either.

I believe this is an issue regarding self-love. I have been through it and I know it is hard. Self love is hard. You can ask yourself: What do you like about yourself? What are your qualities? Your sens of humour, your kindness, your listening skills, your music or movie preferences? Think of the question and write down your qualities. You can also ask yourself: Why would my friends hate me? We go out, we talk a lot. Remember that your are bigger than your fears. I hope this helps! Good luck and remember you are loved! Have a nice day!

I would say that the important thing is not to "convince yourself" of anything. You have an opportunity here for self-exploration, a chance to get to know yourself better than you do now. I would ask myself why it is I am anxious about my friends feelings about me. Are there things they are doing or saying which cause me to feel that they hate me or does this feeling seemingly come out of the blue and for no reason which I can put my finger on? If my friends are treating me badly, mocking me, being cruel to me and talking smack about me behind my back then I would consider getting new and kinder friends in my circle. If they are not doing anything to cause these feelings then I would speak to them openly about how I am feeling, explain that I know they are not trying to make me feel this way but ask them for reassurance. There is no shame in asking for reassurance if that is what you need. Honest and open relationships are the best kind and true friends will react with concern and compassion if approached for reassurance.