How can I convince myself that my friends don't hate me? I have this irrational fear that they actually hate me.

You can try and practice self love and improve your self esteem. Try and learn that it’s all in your head this fear and that they do like you, you need to believe it and try to not overthink. Otherwise you will feel like your not a good person or friend for anyone. It’s something that you can work on by learning to love yourself. As cringe as it sounds when you do it you feel more confident and have more self belief, this will make you doubt yourself less especially when your around others like your friends in this situation.

I believe that the real thought process here should not be based so much on whether or not my friends like or hate me, but more along the lines of how I value myself and what I use to validate myself. If I am using the opinions of my friends as some form of self-validation, then I need to reevaluate what it is that's really important to me because as I move through life, friends are going to come and go. That is a simple fact and no matter how much I wish it were different, that is not something that is going to be avoidable. I actually have to learn how to validate myself on what I find to be important to me and then allow myself to attract people to me, who can share and respect who I am, and then those are the people that I am going to want lifelong and sustaining friendships with because they are people who get me.

Look at things in a rational sense. If your friends hated you, or even disliked you then there would be conflict and they would avoid spending time around you. I understand this feeling 100% but by stepping back and taking a serious look at moments that have happened can help to calm you down. Many people will deal with this anxiety about being disliked by the people around them so I am sure that if you mention it to a friend they can help to reassure you that your presence is cherished and they love having you as a friend.

If you can call them friends then I do not think they hate you. But if it is something you have internalized and truly believe that your friends don't like you I think a good idea would be to talk to some of them and tell them how you feel. Do they give you reason to believe that they hate you? Do they exclude you from activities? Or is it just a feeling you have? Talk with them and tell them that you have this irrational fear you can't seem to shake and let them assure you that they care about you and love you, and then believe it when they tell you.

Realizing that your fear is irrational is a great first step. Everyone experiences social anxiety from time to time. When you find yourself succumbing to fears like these, take a mental time out. Then rationalize why you are feeling this way. Figuring out what triggers these feelings is an important part of learning to cope with them. All the self-doubt, anxiety and fear that you are feeling; those around you feel lot the same way. Even if they won’t admit it. Reach out to someone close to you and trustworthy, and let them know how you are feeling.

Do good to them and try to find some friends who do not hate you. Also you need to understand if it is some sort of bullying, by your friends. Then you need to take all the necessary steps to prevent being bullied. It is their decision to hate or not hate you. This is most important thing to understand. From your side you can only do good. You can concentrate on things in your control. Like gaining friends through, studying well, good marks, sports or any other things which you like, interests you to do. Then based on that people will like to be your friend.

You have to realise that friendship isn't always rainbows and butterflies. There will be times that you will be challenged and your friendship will be tested and there will be certain obstacles you will have to overcome. Friends may turn around and be salty or blunt with you but at the end of the day, if they hated you- they wouldn't be your friend. Hate is a very strong word, yeah friends get upset with you and you will have your arguments here and there but if you want that reassurance- just ask them. It will take guts and willpower, but you will feel better getting it off your chest.

This is definitely a situation we've all experienced at one time or another, with varying intensities. I can say my experience has been less than graceful, but what i learned is that it takes trust in your friends to truly lose this feeling. I know it may seem scary, and maybe even impossible to fully place your trust in someone. However, if your friends are people you have fun with and love having in your life, they need to become people you can trust. Confidants in a way. This takes time and reminders, but it's worth it. Your friends can even tell you that they love you if you ask them, and while it may not help at first, it may be just the reminder you need.

You are surrounded by people who love and adore you! If these people hated you they wouldn’t be in your life and you always need to remember that. Everyone has a choice who they spend time with, and your friends choose you! It’s not easy to believe, but it’s true. It really is! Have you considered seeing a therapist about social anxiety? Check out the website if you want to find out where you can find highly trained professionals to help unravel your fears! Best of luck, I’m here if you need any more help in the future! Look forward to hearing from you again(:

Having trust issues can be pretty painful for both parties. I guess this can happen after you got disappointed or hurt by other. I'd say, first, let's try to be more positive and be more mature. Your friend seems to not care about you. But if you try to look from his/her perspective, he/she probably also has problems. Of course, they probably won't tell you directly what's wrong. But just letting them know that you're there for them is plenty. Second, instead of waiting for someone that you can give your trust to, try to be that person. And last but not least, if someone does harm you, just smile. And ask if they're okay. If you can't really contain your anger, wish them for something good. You can still think positively and it's better than cussing.