How can I convince myself that my friends don't hate me? I have this irrational fear that they actually hate me.

though its hard to believe, this is actually pretty normal.. you probably have been stabbed I the back from someone before and are loosing trust.. and that is so reasonable! I find it so helpful to counteract your thoughts, whether that is in a diary or in your head.. Also if it is really bugging you, tell them! communication is always key, sometimes voicing your concerns can help you feel a lot better and relieve some of that anxiety you are feeling.. remember all the good things you have to help keep your min off all of this !!

Finding out where this feeling stems from. Sometimes the problem stems from other problems. Also finding out what things trigger this feeling? Do your friends do things that make you feel like this. Expressing how you feel to your friends is important, it may help them be more aware of their actions and can help convince you that they don't hate you. Sometimes it may be other insecurities that stem from self-esteem, and other relationships in outlives, and treating these and giving ourselves the time and care we need will help in solving problems have with external environments,

First of all, *hugs*! To suspect that your friends or any loved one might actually hate you is not a nice feeling to have at all. Love and hate are two sides of the same coin. You love your friends, right? And so it's completely natural that you're worried they might hate you. If you didn't love them, you wouldn't really care what they thought right? They'd just be another stranger on the street. We all want to feel loved and be secure in the knowledge that those we love, love us in return. It's clear to me that you're a loving, thoughtful person - someone who wasn't wouldn't care if their friends hated them or not. Not only does this mean your friends would be silly to hate you(!), it means that you have so much to give to your friends. So my advice to you, would be to focus on being your amazing self! What a wonderful gift for them. After all, your true self is probably the reason they love you and the reason you're their friend! Sometimes being yourself is the best way of showing someone how much much you mean to them - because it shows you're comfortable around them, and it shows you trust them. Put your trust in your friends by being yourself, take a leap and have faith that they love you. See how they respond, and you'll find out for yourself what they really think of you. Good luck!

Think about all the fun times you guys had together. And the little things, laughing, having inside jokes, meeting with each other. Those are the moments that you should cherish & hold closely to your heart & mind when you are anxious. Nobody likes being near people they hate, that would be torture. However, if you really think they might hate you, then you could always choose to ask them in a nice way. Honesty is the best policy. If they want to keep this friendship as much as you do, then they will speak out the truth. Besides, if all things does not work out, the whole wide world has an infinity of people you can always make friends with!

My personal experience is that I used to overthink everything. I used to think that my friends don't like to be around me, and it was mostly because I had past experiences with fake friends. Some of the reasons why I thought so, was sometimes they would try to keep a distance from me, and some times and sometimes their body language and tone seems off, but then I realised, most of the time they have been trying to support me, by pointing out my mistakes, trying to make me less dependent on others, helping me to get over my past trauma, etc. They have been helping a lot and sometimes they do get tired and need some space, that's all, they are human too, I feel that I need some space sometimes too, and they do too.

I actually used to get my more patient friends to challenge my anxious and depressive thoughts. This is something you can learn to do yourself over time, and really helps to deal with them. Until you can do it yourself, it helps to have a friend calmly challenge those thoughts and explain logically why it's wrong. They can do this verbally, but I liked to write all my anxious thoughts down and then have them write down their challenges. That way, I could read it back when I had those same thoughts again :) It's based on CBT techniques; if you're able to access CBT this can be very helpful. If not, there's a 'little book of CBT' on Amazon which teaches many of the exercises for a fraction of the price of therapy!

what is this hatred based off? because it may be that it is based off of little insecurities that may be getting in the way. you may need to investigate what these insecurities are

Your friends are chosen family . They don’t HAVE to be around you or HAVE to tell you they care for you .

You can ask then if they hate you. Also you can see how they interact with you. Do they engage in conversation or are they focused on other things. Do they invite you to do things with them or talk with you often. If they do they most likely don't hate you. With irrational fears it can be hard to combat but small steps help. Spend more time with them and make connections. Convincing yourself can be hard but overtime and with experimenting and observing it can become easier. You can also ask yourself why would they hate me? Is this fear really logical?

First ask yourself why you think this, they hate you what causes that thought? Next is that thought valued in knowing your friends, and if it is you need to get some new friends, but if itʻs not then realize that and keep your friends. Know this who ever it is you think hates you, in all honesty the important thing is that you love you, and you know that, is true. You should matter first to yourself and then others, because in all honesty if you feel you donʻt matter to yourself, the people around you who you do matter too, yourself will think it is a lie. So first make sure you know you matter to yourself, and then ask if you matter to others.