How can I convince myself that my friends don't hate me? I have this irrational fear that they actually hate me.

so it sounds like you have this concern that you are not liked by your friends, but you are identifying that it is irrational- so that is a good start. By identifying it as irrational, you are aware that this is probably not the case- can you think of one thing that you enjoy about the friendship of those around you? and what is one things that you think your friends might enjoy about you being in their lives? Try to focus on one positive from each side of the friendship- start small and grow from there

Your friends may have some rough bumps in life and may not want to hang out with you. It is hard to accept if you were friends for a very long time. Sometimes people just need space from others and that may be what is going on. If not you can always ask them. Some people may just tell you what is going on straight up. Others may just want to be away from you. People do not hate you if you are thinking they have been spacey. You can ask them what is wrong and if they say they are having a bad day you can help them and then after they will hang out with you more

This fear is often a difficult feeling to cope with and can be very intimidating. It is important to remember that the mind can make up worries and stressors about things that aren't necessarily present. There is no benefit in worrying about something that isn't present to worry about, it will only waste your energy. I think that it can be very difficult and intimidating to confront a friend about this issue, which makes the fear problematic. But if it becomes this problematic, it is worth a simple conversation with a friend simply by asking if anything is wrong. They can truthfully give you an answer you may be seeking.

Look for actions your friends do that show they love you as a friend, it can be something nice they do, or they call and talk to you, they invite you to things, or ask you how you are, or share their life with you, or spend time together, these are all things that show that your friends like you. Also, you can look at how you see yourself as a person, as an individual, and how well you value yourself, sometimes if we don't treat ourselves well, we don't feel like people around us are treating us well. So perhaps that a good place to start too.

Peoplare usually are quite straightforward. They dont pretend to enjoy someone's company for long if they actually dont. We have nothing to gain being fake in friendship. So when someone says they like you, there is no reason for it to be a lie. If you still lack confidence, you can ask them what are the things they like so much about you, you'd be surprised to discover what are your super powers. Mine is to make people feel safe and listened. People know that I will never judge them, I will never betray their trust and never make fun of them. They know that I will share my knowledge if I have some over the issue they are facing and simply tell them I am as powerless as them if I cannot help but that I am willing to face whatever is ahead by their side. This is my super power. I am not the funny type of friend. I am not a cool kid either. I am not a very inspirational role model, I am not entrepreneur. But this, my listening skills, is my super power. And people love me for that. It is not much but it is enough. What is your super power ? Are you good at gathering people ? At planning events ? Are you a creative mind that inspires people through the si guardian beauty of your work ? Are you good at solving others problems ? Are you passionate about many subjects that make it interesting talking with you about arts, sports and politics, so people always learn something being around you and are never bored ? Ask your friends, they will know what is your super power.

My honest opinion is that if your friends are really your friends and they care for you, they dont hate you. Friends are there to support you and care for you in your time of need. We all have people in our lives that we say hello to from time to time, but our closest friends we keep close to our hearts. You need to take a step back and ask yourself if the friends you have are the ones to keep close to you. Friends are and important part of all of our lives but at thee same time should not be there just out of necessity.

I feel that everybody experiences or has experienced this in their life. You are not alone. I think that the best way to give yourself conformation is to remind yourself that unless your friends are hinting at being mad or being passive aggressive, it is unlikely that they have a problem with you. Also remember that they may feel the same way. It is not uncommon to feel worried about other's opinions of you. Also, if this feeling will not go away, you can always ask your friends how they feel. Otherwise, if you know your fear is irrational, try thinking of the good times you have had with your friends. Do you think they hated you in that moment? Most likely not.

Okay so to tackle negative thoughts we need to put our thoughts ‘on trial.’ This helps us to rationalise them by offering alternative perspectives. To do this, you first need to think of all of the evidence as to why the thoughts might be true. So why do your friends hate you? How do they hate you? Next you need to think of all the reasons this might not be true. Can you think of a time your friends proved that they don’t hate you? Would they still be your friends? What would you say to someone else in your situation. Now it’s time to re-evaluate. Is your thinking rational?

Take a moment to think of all the things you have to offer to your friends and how you treat them. Then think back on how they treat you. If you notice a significant difference on how you treat each other, there may be something to talk about. Don't jump to conclusions that they hate you and cause yourself the stress. Instead, discuss it with your friends and how you feel. Something as simple as this may help you and your friends better communicate and talk about any problems you may be having. You are an amazing person and have a lot to offer, surround yourself with people that know your worth, support you, and don't bring you down!

You can ask them directly, "Do you hate me?" It might feel weird to ask your friends this, but it would be the most efficient method. Also, showing yourself compassion is a good practice because people who think close ones don't like them normally have low-self esteem. By gaining confidence, you won't be looking at things in a negative light as much, or searching for things your friends are doing that follow your low-confidence mindset. Try daily affirmations and self-love practices (like face masks, yoga, etc.) to rewire your brain into seeing you as an interesting, fun, important, [insert whatever positive adjective you want], person. Hope that helps!