How can I convince myself that my friends don't hate me? I have this irrational fear that they actually hate me.
YourPersonalPal
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Jan 24, 2018
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Hm well think about this. If they hated you why do they have your back? Why can you count on them for anything? Why do they help you when you need it? Why do they trust you and you trust them?
Jennifer164
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Jan 25, 2018
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So since you know that is irrational,whenever you have that thought,question your thought.Ask yourself,"Is this thought ratioal?"And try to repeat phrases like,"I know they don't hate me" "It's just my thoughts making me feel so."Or try talking with them about these feelings.
Quackersome
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Feb 7, 2018
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They don't hate you. Think of it this way. If they hated you, would they still be your friends? Would they still want to spend time with you? Would they still care for you? No right? They do it because they are your friend.
EverythingIAm
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Feb 8, 2018
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You can't know for sure, but you're supposed to trust friends. That is part of the pleasure of friendship: trusting without absolute evidence and then being rewarded for that trust.
Anonymous
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Feb 9, 2018
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If they really hated you, you would know because its obvious. If they hated you, they would ignore you and exclude you from their schedule.
UnknownAngel
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Feb 16, 2018
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The best way to convince yourself is to confront them about how you are feeling. That is the best way to ease your mind.
Cassandra56
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Feb 18, 2018
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This is such a tough feeling to have--I'm sorry that it's coming up for you! One approach might be to sit down and make a couple of lists to test this thought. For example:
1. What evidence do I have that my friends hate me? Have they said or acted in a way that supports this belief?
2. What evidence do I have that my friends don't hate me? Have they reached out, invited me to hang out, or said something nice to me lately?
3. What other reasons do I have for worrying that my friends hate me? Is this triggering feelings related to other people or situations from the past?
4. What concrete actions can I take this week to mitigate this fear (eg. reach out to friends, talk with someone new, etc)
MissesOliver
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Feb 22, 2018
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It is perfectly normal to be worried about friendships! Sometimes we have to remember that friends don't have to stick with us, but they do and that reminds us of the love they have for us!
caringstarling2233
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Feb 22, 2018
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Be a good friend
Anonymous
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Mar 2, 2018
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Your friends don't hate you. If they did, they wouldn't be your friends. If you're really scared, try asking them yourself.
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