How can I convince myself that my friends don't hate me? I have this irrational fear that they actually hate me.

Remind yourself that even though you have these 'reasons' for thinking like this, are any of them actually valid? Was that person maybe having a bad day which made them say something you didn't like? If not then your invalid fears should be replaced with a mantra like "They ARE my friends."

If you have a "gut" feeling of your friends despising you, ask them yourself. You're never going to get reassurance by standing around and waiting for signs.

Work on your self-confidence: believe that you are a person worthy of great, supportive friends. Additionally, perhaps you can look for new and different friends with whom you feel comfortable around.

Remind yourself of the fact that they don't hate you, of the logic behind hanging out with you, otherwise, Ask them. Mention your irrational fear to some of your closer friends, and ask them to help you with it. I had that fear for so long growing up, because I was picked on a lot. So when I finally did make friends I was afraid they hated me and would hate me. and then I realized, If they did, they wouldn't hang out with me, or talk to me as much as they do. They wouldn't give me hugs or play dumb games in the yard, they wouldn't do any of that. So. that's a pretty good way of convincing yourself, in my opinion. Neutral logic rant and yeah.

I can convince myself that my friends don't hate me by slowly opening myself to communication with them and carefully observing their behaviour. If it is an irrational fear it could be tested by putting myself in real situations and being sincere with them. It is possible to admit to someone that we fear he/she hates us. In the background of this fear I would put oversensitivity and selfcriticism. Also...more important is that we become aware of the fact that maybe we hate ourselves?

Talk to them, if you can't for some reason or you're not ready to yet. Look to see what makes you feel this way and try to understand why this is happening.

Think about all the good times you've experienced with your friends. The little things mean a lot .!

Talk to them. people change so sometimes they will find they wanna hang out with this person, then a bit later they wanna hang out with you! but it doesnt mean they hate you

I keep a list of nice things my friends have said about me. It includes compliments and descriptions of moments when I felt connected to them and that we were really friends. Then I try to read it when I'm feeling lonely or as if no one likes me.

Try to have faith in yourself. Ask your friends what they like about you. You might be pleasantly surprised! They wouldn't be your friends if they didn't like you.