How can I convince myself that my friends don't hate me? I have this irrational fear that they actually hate me.

Though it might sound silly, talk to them. Tell them how you feel because all your friends care about you, and will try and persuade you into thinking so. If you feel like they hate you, look at the way they behave around you and how they behave around their other friends. You could, if you still think they hate you, confront them. If they really cared about you they would try and convince that they don’t help. Obviously this can be different for different people, so just try and find a way to prove to yourself that they care about you.

I find that guesswork with your relationships can often lead to more harm than good, hands down the best way to know how someone feels about is to ask them. Until you do, that question may nag you in the back of your mind the whole time you're with them, and that may lead you to act differently with them, which might drive them away, and then you'll think you were right, when you actually weren't. Always ask, everything else is just pure guesswork, your friends might actually surprise you with how much they care about you, you just have to take that first step and ask.

Personally, I struggled with this all through high school. It was questioning everything said and seeing it as a personal threat. One way I was able to tone it down was taking a step back and recognizing that they are my friends and not my enemies. It was tough at first but it began to help in terms of not taking playful jokes and seeing them as personal attacks. Once you get over that first hump its clear waters from there. If its not, thats completely fine. We all function diffrently, I would then try and have a conversation describing my doubts and anxiety!

You can ask then if they hate you. Also you can see how they interact with you. Do they engage in conversation or are they focused on other things. Do they invite you to do things with them or talk with you often. If they do they most likely don't hate you. With irrational fears it can be hard to combat but small steps helpif you feel you donʻt matter to yourself, the people around you who you do matter too, yourself will think it is a lie. So first make sure you know you matter to yourself, and then ask if you matter to others.. Spend more time with them and make connections.

Everyone feels like this at some point within their lives, and just know you are not alone. Before you worry, think to yourself these three questions: 1.) Have they specifically told you they feel this way? 2.) Can you remember the last time they laughed at a joke, asked to hang out with you, said hi first, asked how you were, or shown care for you? If so, it is very unlikely that they hate you. 3.) If they really do hate you, why would they spend time with you, and be your friend? Just know you can always talk to them, and they do care

Nobody would cope with anyone if they actually hate them. Remember that. If you still have the fear, go up to them and ask them.

Don't be a victim of overgeneralization and filtering. Sometimes, you may feel that they've always behaved in a bad way, based on one experience, which may not be true. At other times, even if you see something positive, you may be filtering it out and focusing only on the negative. If these two work together, you'll find yourself in an anxiety loop. If you objectively observe, you'll realise that it isn't really true. Besides, they've not actually told you that they hate you, have they? Why do you need to assume then?

by talking to them about it, to share your feelings with them, to show love and peace, and help them. to talk

you dont have to convince yourself that they like you, its either they like you or not, even if you convince yourself that they like you, you 'll not be happy after you find out they dont. so test their bond with you, if they are worth it , be with them, if they're not leave them and make some new friends

You're fearing your friends because you think they hate you and it's making you a bit stressed. Try taking a few deep breaths, but also you could try talking to family members or try bringing the situation to light.