How can I affectively help people? I try and then i feel like i have failed so what do i have to do? it just raises my anxiety and i can't handle it sometimes.

I understand how you feel. It's easy to feel like your failing. But think positive and everything will be ok. Just be compassionate and try to see how they're feeling. Imagine if what they're going throufh, happened to you and how it would feel. It's easier to relate if you put yourself in their shoes. Just show them you care and are there for them.

From what I can tell it seems like you are afraid of letting people down. It's a great thing that you want to help people, and you definitely should keep on doing that. However, if it raises your anxiety and makes you stressed in any way, remember to take good care of yourself first. You can't help people if you don't prioritize your own well-being first.

Simply, you canʻt help someone who doesnʻt want to be helped. Yes, they may ask for help, but sometimes their demons might drown out so much of them that no matter what you suggest, they keep thinking the worst of it. They canʻt be helped if they arenʻt willing to make any positive changes. You have NOT failed. You tried to make an impact and thatʻs what matters most. What you can do is encourage them to seek things from a better perspective; encourage them to seek proffesional help if itʻs needed. But in the end, the main person who can help someone is themselves. You are not at fault if they continue to struggle.

If you want to help others while struggling yourself is by each day giving yourself a maximum amount of people you would like to lend a hand to so it won't seem overwhelming to handle all at once and if you didn't do you're best you can ask feedbacks from the person you helped to see where they think you can improve.

This is just my own personal experience. it is always best to just relax and be yourself. Sometimes in my mind, I feel fully capable of handling any issues thrown at me. Yes, while many times what is on our mind does not always match what we speak. I come to realize that, I am not relaxed nor in my own personal comfort zone. I have to assure myself to first fully listen or read what your trying to take on. I have put myself in many bad situations all because, I jumped the gun. I come to realize that every experience with any one is very different some are simple to help while others are indeed more complicated it may be that the person who we are trying to help leaves out certain important details. so our responses don't always match what others are wanting to know. I do make plenty of mistakes but the key is keep yourself calm and reflect on the experience. We will become better at helping others. Believe in yourself.

The only way to help people is help them to find their own solution for their own problem. Sometimes people are just not ready to make even small changes, and if they are not willing to make some changes there is no way for you to help them. As long as your do your best, respecting boundaries, trying genuinely to help them, you did what you could. It is very important for you to be able to deal with your anxiety and not ending feeling overwhelmed. Mindful exercises, a good walk in the nature or a chat with someone who can listen to you, most of the time do help

Sometimes in order to help others you need to be in a good place yourself first. This means emotionally, financially, and physically. I have problems with giving and giving until there's nothing left. At that point you might start to resent people, or wonder why there's no one there to help you like you helped others, and you might become depressed. So remember to set healthy boundaries for yourself, and that it's ok to say no. Perfectionism can really hurt you in the long run, so please never feel like a failure for not being a superhero. You are not alone!