How can I affectively help people? I try and then i feel like i have failed so what do i have to do? it just raises my anxiety and i can't handle it sometimes.

Affectively helping people can be done in several ways. First of course, is simply listen to what they have to say without judgment, and with a positive, caring attitude. Let people know that you understand they are feeling stressed, and try to ask them questions pertinent to their conversation. Be engaged, make them feel you care, and I guarantee they will feel a positive vibe from you and feel somewhat better after their talk. You have the ability to help people- but knowing you'll help before you even talk to them will give you the confidence you need to make a difference. Just be you.

Maybe those people that you were trying to help don't need your advice or anything. Maybe they just need you to listen to them. Sometimes words can't help people that much. There's too much bullshit in this world hahah. Sometimes, what people need is just a support and ears to listen. And as for you, you don't need to feel like you have failed. I'm pretty sure they know that you're trying to help them. The one who can tell that and feel the impact is them. So you shouldn't judge yourself that you've failed to help. People who get mad when things are wrong, people who have big problems tend to ignore of what people said to them even though what they said or what you said might be true. So don't say that you've failed because you don't.

Sometimes the way to help people is to just listen. Although sometimes you get people you can't entirely help, and you do feel like you've failed- you probably did help them a lot, and you're just being hard on yourself.

Best thing you can do to help people effectively is to simply just listen and be there for them. Become a moral support and encouragement. Offer suggestions but never advices. Ultimately, becoming a listening ear when the time comes.

You have probably helped them more than you know. I like to ask people what I can do to help them so that I can getter a better grasp on what they need.

Helping others can seem like a major thing to do, however simply listening to another persons worries is helping them.. Even if you haven't helped physically by listening you've mentally helped them and helped yourself in the process.

First thing to do is try your best. Be empathetic. Try to put yourself in their shoes and imagine what words can lift you back up. Second, remember that you cannot help everyone. We can support them and lift them up, but only they can help themselves. Blaming yourself for too long over a failure to change someone will destroy you. I know this by experience.

Before you can help people you have to be able to help yourself first! So many the feeling of failure could be because you don't feel content within yourself.

Sometimes all someone needs is someone to listen to them. If they don't feel comfortable opening up, it always is a good thing to tell them that you are there and that you care. If it's a specific issue, sometimes doing research can help you know how to help them in a practical manner.

You appear to be a very caring person but remember its your choice to help people you are under no obligation but it shows alot about the person you are