Everything in my life is messed up. Motivation works temporarily and I'm not suicidal but feel it's pointless to live like this. What should I do to feel hopeful?
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Moderated by Smita Joshi, BA Psychology / MA / Advanced EFT Practitioner
Updated: May 29, 2022
friendlyPerspective32
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Dec 24, 2016
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I'm a very verbal person; in other words, I like to write my feelings out on a piece of paper. It helps because then I have a channel where I can address and let go of any negative emotions that I may have bottled up inside. So, whenever I'm struggling to stay positive or optimistic, I like to write out (1) what I'm grateful for, (2) what I like about myself, and (3) what my goals are. I also write about how I am feeling in the moment and why things aren't going the way that I want them to go, and how things aren't always as bad as they seem to be at first. In other words, I try to look at the brighter side of things. Once you get in the habit of doing that, it becomes easier. I hope this helps :)
Anonymous
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Jan 7, 2017
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Typically when I feel like that I surround myself with positive people who will build me up as a person and encourage me to keep up all the effort I'm putting into life. When I need to feel hopeful, I plan out a future in which my life isn't so messed up, and after I plan that out I plan out a path to get myself there and I start out on it. Good luck with everything!
Anonymous
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Feb 23, 2017
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I think the trick here is not to force anything. If you feel down then embrace that and go with it. Just trust the process. You could keep a Gratitude journal and list the things you are thankful for each day. Start with 3 things you're really glad you have. Think about a time when you helped someone or about a happy event from your life. That will help to buoy you up. Spend time with friends or pamper yourself - go and do something you really like or something you have planned to do for some time and fully give yourself to that. Be your own best friend. Eat well, exercise for just 20 minutes 3 times a week and your mood will improve.
cactusmilk
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Feb 25, 2017
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Try doing things you enjoy. Find a motivation. If you find life as being pointless then what keeps you grounded here? A family member you love? Turn them into your motivation.
Rakune
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Apr 1, 2017
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Schedule activities and spend time around positive, supportive people. It also helps to keep a gratitude journal. I don't know about other people, but writing what I'm grateful for everyday makes me feel a little more hopeful about life.
Anonymous
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Apr 2, 2017
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Although it's hard, try to notice the little things in life more often. Feel the wind against your skin, hear the sound of the birds, look at the sky and the moving clouds, look at all of the flowers. Let yourself be pleased and satisfied by these things. Think of how lucky everybody on this earth is to have been given a chance to experience this thing called life. Life is a blessing.
birdwatcher444
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Apr 7, 2017
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I would say, set yourself extremely realistic goals. Being unrealistic and pushing yourself will only result in disappointment, and that's a bit counter productive to feeling hopeful, no? Goals can be very small and should probably be fairly realistic. For example, my daily goal is to usually drink water. Small, but reasonable. Best of luck!
Anonymous
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Apr 9, 2017
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Don't think too much. It will pass eventually, the bad things I mean. We all go through things that probably seem endless and it is perfectly okay to feel that way. However don't let it consume you as a person because that is not healthy either. We all have bad things and good things in our life even if it seems impossible to find the good things. Sometimes we just have to keep fighting for the good things yet to come! So don't give up. I believe in you
Lovingheart1982
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Apr 10, 2017
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Why don't you consider refocusing your life, take a time to think what is most important for you, and then, act according to that.
Anonymous
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Apr 20, 2017
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In my personal experience I feel that when feeling this way you should open u pro somebody as there is always someone who can help you, you life is not pointless, you are very important to so many people and you positively impact people's lives everyday! To feel hopeful I would recommend to always share the way you feel with someone you trust and maybe enjoy more time with friends doing things that you love 😊
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