Everything in my life is messed up. Motivation works temporarily and I'm not suicidal but feel it's pointless to live like this. What should I do to feel hopeful?

I have felt hopeless in this world before. I told myself if I shamed myself into submission I would motivated, I wasn't. While suicide was off of the table, I still didn't want to do anything. To feel hopeful I ended up just watching YouTube videos, reading hyperbole and a half about 40 times, and painting. Some days were better than others.

Please remember that happiness comes from within. You can’t find happiness in others before finding in yourself what makes you happy. Learn to love yourself, understand yourself before you learn to love others. You will have heartbreaks, professional setbacks, unfulfilled dreams, or worse. When you understand that disappointment is part of the life equation, your recovery time will be much faster. Please remember that we have less time than you really think we do. Every moment counts so stop planning and start doing. Stop leaving things for tomorrow, for next year. Make this moment count.

For me, the shortest path to hope was to find gratitude for the things already in my life. Even simple things or perhaps especially simple things like being alive, safe and well fed. Access to a computer and a caring community like 7cups. Gratitude is a practice meaning that it is something we have to work on daily. I thought the gratitude journal was a silly idea until I committed to completing on for a week. Then I began to see the benefits in my attitude. Gratitude has a direct and measurable impact on depression and even in the brain. It seems it is just not possible to be hopeless and grateful at the same time. I hope this helps. I wish you peace. ~J

Your Gonna Be Okay! God is watching over you. In the end everything is going to be okay and if its not Okay Its not the end! I LOVE you! Stay strong!

Keep trying to take care of yourself and do the things that you can. Don't compare yourself to others or beat yourself up. Life won't always be this messed up, I promise. Try to take the baby steps you can to help yourself in this rough time and try to find patience if you can.

There is a lot to answer there, so I'll focus on one important thing that jumps out at me. How we use language is related to our thoughts. I see right away that you may have established a pattern of what is called "all or nothing" thinking. When you say "Everything in my life is messed up." intellectually you know that that is simply not true. However - your mind and body takes it in as true and responds accordingly. I recommend a therapist who could help you catch those thoughts and reframe them.

When there are several issues at play, it's easy to feel paralyzed and accomplish nothing. Figure out what the BIGGEST problem is, or the problem that seems to be the root of more than one problem, and work on that. Understand that will power doesn't exist, and plan and repetition to change a habit at a time is all you can really do.

Calm down inside your head. There will never be any perfect, ideal situation in life, accept it. Now, to understand why you should live, ask what you would do if there is no obstacle and no mess and no fears? Pick tiniest version of that thing, for e.g. if you wanna be a writer, write just one line today- and do that often. That will make you feel satisfied, happy and you will look forward to it. The problems will come and go as you are focused on creating something new rather than fixing the broken parts. Cheers.

When so much stuff goes wrong, it can really feel like you are going against the flow, and I personally find it tempting to just go limp and let the tide carry me downstream. However, the relief of giving up is only temporary and can be very costly in many ways. It's brilliant that you've reached out for help. Perhaps longer term support, such as a good counsellor or listener, might help you to cope with the emotional aspect of the challenges you face - It's good to have a place for a relief. There's innumerable ways to make progress and to give yourself hope in the process. Some ways will work for you and others not; If something you read or hear doesn't always work for you, please don't let that defeat you. Personally, in recovery from depression I have used many practical and emotional approaches to problems, and some of these I still use today. Here's my two cents worth: Have you tried using short-term AND long-term goals together? The long term goals could be things such as getting a job interview, learning a new skill, or even completing a game. Short-term goals can be things which contribute towards this, such as improving your CV, buying a book about a skill, or completing one level of a game. Short term goals can also be unrelated to long-term goals. Completing even easy goals can be a little morale boost for yourself. Try to take the time to really appreciate what you've done, before you look at what's next. When you tick off short term goals, it can feel nice. When you tick of the long term goals, it can feel REALLY nice! To help with this, try to look after yourself physically with diet, exercise, and sleep; Through my own experience and what I read, these really help to balance emotions out so you can feel the rewards of your successes. It's not all or nothing - even doing a little towards these is helpful. Hope this has been a little help and good luck with your journey!

Do something you love...draw..paint..meditate..be with people who makes you happy...help a stranger...smile daily...make yourself a schedule of happy cheerful things & keep yourself motivated by reading motivational quotes and spread around all the people you love be the positive vibes 🌹